The negative voice in our head always wants to focus on our short-comings; rarely does it want to give us credit for what we are accomplishing. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The word try also sets us up to feel better about failure. If you're saying to yourself I'm trying to get better at basketball and I'm trying to work out then you don't have to succeed for that to be true, right? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You can fail at your goal but still have tried. And the worst part, your brain will be satisfied with that because you only asked it to try. So technically, it gave you exactly what you asked for. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Catch yourself when you use the word try and shift to more direct and powerful language. Give yourself credit and don't let your brain off the hook so easily. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I'm trying to workout --> I am working out⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I'm trying to stay in shape --> I am staying in shape ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I'm trying to be a leader for my teammates --> I am being a leader for my teammates⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When you shift, you take more ownership of the situation. You also either get a gut sense of whether it's true or not. If you shifted your language and felt yourself question it (e.g., I am being a leader for my teammates ... am I though?) then that means you're taking ownership and allowing your brain to troubleshoot and come up with actions that will align with the new statement. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When you only try to be a leader for your teammates you can sit in limbo and inaction all summer and still satisfy your brain. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What have you been trying to do? Share below, and then shift your language to the empowered version and let me know how it feels. 👇⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Because I promise, it'll feel different.
Our brain can do really cool things for us if we let it ✨🧠⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Simple shifts in your language can take you from a place of being a victim (you have no choice or power over the situation) to a place of power (taking ownership of the situation). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The thing is, when we play the victim (we have no choice or power), our brain kind of shuts down. It stops looking for opportunities, it stops problem-solving on our behalf, it quits altogether. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Our brain wants to preserve energy so why would it waste any more on something you've told it was a dead-end? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Examples of how we play the victim: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✨I don't have enough time ...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✨It's not my fault...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✨If I could get into a gym, I could use this time to get better...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Simply shifting your language so that you're taking ownership of the situation, shifts your brain into a place of problem-solving for us. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✨I don't have enough time 👉 how can I prioritize the actions that will get me closer to my vision? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✨It's not my fault 👉 how can I figure out a way around this? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✨If I could get into a gym, I could use this time to get better 👉 I can't get into a gym. How can I use this time to get better?
You're not actually running the show 🙈⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Most of our habits and beliefs lie in our subconscious mind, which directly affects our behavior, language, and day-to-day decisions. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Which means, we're not consciously aware at times of why we're doing what we're doing, thinking certain thoughts, or why those bad habits keep running our lives. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✨I want to be productive but I keep sleeping in or staying up late.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✨I tell myself I'm lazy or that I suck at basketball all the time.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✨Every time my coach gives me feedback, I get angry, feel embarrassed and shut down (even if it's helpful). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✨I am trying to show leadership on my team but it's not working. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The subconscious mind isn't easy to change, either. Not like the conscious mind is anyway. The beliefs imprinted here have developed over the years. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The language you use is a direct link to your subconscious. It reveals what your beliefs and self-limiting stories are. In turn, it can also shape those beliefs in stories. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So, good news is that it works both ways. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Listen to the language you use when you talk about yourself and your vision. If you can't catch it verbally at first, journal each day to get to know your internal language and inner athlete.
The mind guides action. If you can regulate your thoughts and inner language to align with your vision, this will help your behavior. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Telling yourself you suck or you're not good enough doesn't push you harder. It actually (and actively) works against you. It makes you worse at basketball. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Awareness -> Reframe --> Replace 🖤
What does a good dribble or take feel like? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What does work hard mean to you?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When you feel powerful, where is the power coming from? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What is your self-talk when you're pushing through those intense moments? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What makes you stop? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What does it feel like when you're performing your best? What are you doing? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Athletes - during this downtime, continue to refine your internal experience of what is happening when you feel tired, when you feel powerful, when you feel frustrated with a new skill, and when you execute. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Awareness of what is going on inside when you're frustrated can help you move more quickly through those challenging times in the future. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ While a rich internal model of your ideal performance gives you template for mental rehearsal (visualization). You'll know exactly what you want to replicate. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Start asking yourself questions and find the answers. Keep your Player's Journal handy for these sessions. 📓🖊️