🛑 STOP comparing yourself to people on your phone! ⠀ ⠀ Walking in confidence looks different for everyone. But for most people, this means you have to put your blinders up from time to time.⠀ ⠀ If you are in an unhealthy habit and cycle of comparison, it is time to make the decision to retrain your brain. And the way you do that is by unfollowing, unplugging and stop scrolling just to scroll. Don’t get sucked into the lies that social media tells all of us: everyone is perfect, everyone has this amazing life, everyone has it all figured out...wth am I doing? ⠀ ⠀ And NEWS FLASH —this message is not just for women. Men do this too. ⠀ ⠀ The only way that you will walk in truth, the only way that you will walk in your confidence is if you make a conscious decision to do so. Put up those blinders. Find your inner strength. And BASK IN IT. Walk in confidence this week. ⠀✊🏼✊🏼✊🏼 ⠀ ⠀ masterclass: @katiegrantphoto for @thehybridco styling + florals: @jannabrowndesign paper goods + assist: @lazywoodlane gown: @christoscostarellos from @thedresstheory makeup + hair: @jaxstudio silk ribbon: @silkandwillow
Tanner and I rarely (and actually by this I mean we never) get each other Valentine’s Day presents. Tonight I threw an envelope his way and said, “it’s no big deal” and he opened it begrudgingly because he didn’t get me anything (per our agreement). He pulled out Bon Iver tickets and squealed like a girl.⠀ ⠀ But our typical tradition is simple: we go to dinner. Then we go to target and buy whatever heart full of chocolate is left. And then we go to a movie, eating one half of each chocolate and giving the rest to the other. Every year since 2012. Except the year we broke up on Valentine’s Day. 🤷🏻♀️ A story for another time. ⠀ ‘To my groom’ vow book by the incredibly talented @ohhoneypaperco. Scanning by @thefindlab
Bossy. Controlling. Aggressive. Intense. B*tch. ⠀ ⠀ This is what I grew up hearing from the people around me. I’m too intense. I’m too controlling. People don’t like when I speak my mind. ⠀ ⠀ I heard once that there are two types of enneagram numbers that are particularly hard for certain genders. It is much harder to be a male 2. And it is much harder to be a female 8. Guess what my enneagram number is? ⠀ ⠀ When a man is an 8, he’s strong. Powerful. Decisive. Has good leadership skills. Commands the room. People respect him and look up to him. But for me, it has been a constant struggle of identity. ⠀ ⠀ I always thought that the things that made me who I am—the parts of me that are demanding, aggressive, decisive, forward, challenging—I always thought those parts were the things that were wrong with me. The things I needed to change in order to fit in. I needed to shove those parts away and be more gentle. Speak up less. Don’t take up as much space. ⠀ ⠀ I get that not everyone loves the enneagram, but for me it has changed the way I think about myself. It has made me realize that this IS the way that I am and there is NOTHING wrong with it. That doesn’t mean that I haven’t been an unhealthy 8 in the past...and there are things that I do need to be mindful of as I navigate relationships with a challenger personality...But! This is me. I’m exactly who I am supposed to be. And it feels really good to say that. I’m not holding back anymore. What is your enneagram number?? I love talking enneagram. Tell me below! Photo by the lovely @darcybenincosa
There’s something about putting on a giant pair of earrings that makes me feel hot. ⠀ My favorite pair of earrings are giant tassels that practically touch my shoulders and honestly, they could be bigger. ⠀ ⠀ These earrings were perfectly hand crafted by @naturae_design...and I want a pair right now. This is art in the form of metal hanging from an ear and I absolutely love it and I don’t even care if it’s heavy enough to rip my ear off. ⠀ I think it is perfectly okay to find something that you put on or do that makes YOU feel good about yourself. Just for you. For me, it’s fancy earrings and red lipstick. 💄 ⠀ What do you do or wear just for YOU? . Workshop: @thepathworkshops Lead photographer: @darcybenincosa Stylist: @stay__co Models: @lafroetlebarbu Makeup/hair : @ckennedybeauty Dress: @dollypearl Florist: @wildblossomflowers Ribbon: @froufrouchic Earrings: @naturae_design
This is your year to get photographed.⠀ ⠀ Maybe you’ve been thinking about it, but it’s been such a hassle to even think about scheduling because you’re so busy taking care of everyone else. Maybe you are waiting for a special occasion or excuse to spend the money. Maybe someday you’ll do it if you ever lose that weight or get a better wardrobe. Maybe you’ve been hiding for a long time and can’t stand the thought of being in front of a camera. ⠀ ⠀ I’m here to tell you that this is your year to get photographed! Stop waiting for your life to be perfect, because it never will be. Stop hiding from the world because you are worth being seen. Stop waiting to be unafraid because sometimes you have to just push past the fear and go for it. ⠀ ⠀ This is your year.
As a woman, it’s sometimes incredibly difficult to feel enough—thin enough, pretty enough, tall enough, poised enough, put together enough, safe enough, elegant enough, free enough. ⠀ ⠀ But there’s just something about being in your wedding dress... I slid into that dress and it fit perfectly. It was completely me. I felt confident and strong and gorgeous and no matter what I thought before, I was now incredible.⠀ ⠀ But let me tell you a secret. ⠀ ⠀ The dress doesn’t matter.⠀ ⠀ Yes, it was dazzling to find something that represented the security I felt with Tanner, the love I had for him and let’s just be real—being in a beautiful dress made me feel hot. But I was and am perfectly capable of being strong, beautiful, elegant, poised, free, and cherished without the dress. ⠀ ⠀ If you feel that way in your dress, don’t feel guilty! It’s 100% okay—and encouraged— to feel like a million bucks in your wedding dress. But don’t think for a second that you aren’t a million bucks without it. @samanthakindred host @erinwilsonphoto dress @chantillycouturebridal calligraphy @paper_supply_co florals @vaseandvine dresses @bellabridesmaids tux @mr.tux_ar cake @earthandhoneycakes