Happy International Happiness Day! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I think I might need a do over for this festive occasion. I didn’t have the happiest happy day, today. Or yesterday. Or the day before. Ummm, this week has been more crappy than happy. And it didn’t need to be. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But my week pales in comparison to some people in my community. My heart is heavy with losses of several people’s loved ones. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And I wasted 72 precious hours by just being in a crummy mood over taxes and credit card bills and sick kids and hormones. Life didn’t throw me any major curve balls this week. My fears were fabricated. Nothing real. Just total mind BS. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So I’m using all of my tools to turn my mood around, to practice what I preach, even on the shit days. Especially on the shit days. Today, I hit the reset button on my morning routine. The one that I love and I’ve avoided lately. I restarted my nightly 3 good things practice. I did yoga the past few days. I put my tasks away and snuggled with my kiddo who has been home sick all week.I apologized to my husband for picking a fight. I stopped procrastinating worked on my taxes. And I’m signing off right now to go read my book. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Some days happiness comes as easily as opening our eyes. And others it takes deliberate effort. I’m putting in the effort. Starting over. Hitting the reset button. Appreciating my life. Giving hugs of gratitude to my family, whom I adore more than anything. And I’m sending massive love out to those who are grieving right now. If your day was less than happy, because of some serious life-altering events happening, I’m so sorry. And I’m sending you love and prayers and hugs and healing. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If your day was less than stellar because you’ve just been in a funk lately and you’d like to snap out of it, please know that you can choose differently, tomorrow. You can make the effort. And so can I. We can hug our dogs, give others the benefit of the doubt, get some fresh air, laugh with our loved ones and do some #happyacts for someone else. ......................Are you with me?
An absolutely gorgeous ski day with my humans ... and the sun is out!!!
“Our faith should never matter more than our humanity.” Hasan Minhaj (@hasanminhaj) ... ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This should go without saying, yet, once again, tragically, it needs to be said. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I stand with Muslims, New Zealand and all those deeply impacted by this horrific atrocity. I also stand with my friends who are afraid to go to their places of worship or are afraid to be who they are. I’m inspired by this particular friend of mine, @happilyhafsa, to make better use of Instagram and the internet, today, and let my corner of the world know that I stand with all of us in my outrage at the #newzealandshooting . ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Our faiths, our skin color, our socio economic status, education, our upbringing should never matter more than our humanity. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Please visit both of these wise and beautiful souls’ profiles and posts about this tragedy for poignant wake-up calls as to what it’s like to endure the horrendous #islamaphobia happening in our world, today. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Give them and others living in fear massive solidarity on this disheartening day. And then share your open-hearted and open- minded views with your corners of the world. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀#saynotohate
Do you remember that hysterical Toyota mini van mom video? The Sienna Swagger Wagon … it’s so good. If you don’t remember it, just google swagger wagon. Their lives are the epitome of being un swagger worthy… plastic car keys, a kid who has to go potty, rolling through the hood in the total shame of a minivan. Yet it’s so funny, because clearly these two had game (or at least a very good sense of humor) prior to parenthood…. This quote was painted on the mirror of a hotel in Dallas where I just stayed. Do you have a certain swagger? or maybe the better question is DID you have a certain swagger? I had diminishing swagger when the swagger wagon viral video came out. I was elbow deep in preschool life. And I refused to buy a minivan. That felt like the ultimate death to my old self. My car was wildly impractical for putting two twins in carseats. A mini van would’ve been A LOT easier. My sister had one, looked easier to have the doors slide open, kids climb in unassisted. I decided to go through the back breaking alternative of holding on for dear life to whatever swagger that was rapidly slipping out of my grasp so I didn’t have to go with the ultimate I am old shame of owning a minivan. So ridiculous. Swagger can piss people off. Swagger can be off-putting. But I love being over 40 and deciding that those hairy eyeballs and side eye glances from any swagger I might try on won’t bother me. I’ll just own my swagger (and my klutziness) all over the place. When I’m just being comfortable in my own skin, I think I definitely swagger. Swagger comes from just loving ourselves to pieces. Showing up fully. Knowing that we are a walking parenting paradox of cool and dorky. I’m sure using the word dorky probably even shows my age … cue the cringe. But who cares? I don’t. I’m going to strut, swagger, sashay and take it all in stride. I might also wear my breakfast on my shirt (last week, I did). How about you? Are you going to swagger, today?
I want to give a huge shout out to all of the women in my life. My mom, my sister, my sister-in-law, my mother-in-law, my nieces … we are all a VERY strong bunch. Even my niece who is only 4 years old. She is definitely a woman warrior. And my niece who is 14, she’s one of the top ranked big mountain skiers in the country. Even our dog is a strong woman!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I also adore all of my female friends. I’ve always been a girl’s girl … surrounding myself with the most supportive and inspiring bunch. I had coffee with old and new friends just this morning. Made my whole day to be in their presence. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And here’s my shout out to all of my female clients current and past. I’ve had the pleasure of working with and partnering with tons of women over the past 8 years. Brave and brilliant business owners. I love it when we do business as ourselves. Not trying to conform to the old ways. Breaking new ground as ourselves with flexible schedules, open hearts and an insane worth ethic. And I love the women I get to guide in The Life Feast. This one is very close to my heart as I know that, as women, our superpower is taking care of everything and everyone, yet then we forget to take care of ourselves. For those who love creativity as self care, as much as I do, I’m so honored and thrilled they are making more time for it in their lives. I’m celebrating that shift BIG TIME! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’ve got to pack to take one of my twinnies to her basketball tournament this weekend. I love that she loves basketball. I love that her coach is a woman who is badass at basketball, business and raising babies. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So here’s to strong women. May we know them. May we be them. May we raise them. And let’s add, “May we celebrate them!” #iwd2019
“A strong woman looks a challenge dead in the eye and gives it a wink.” –Gina Carey I love these strong women I am raising. They wink at challenges all over the place! Their tenacity, strength and just all around fantastic attitude never ceases to amaze me. They are my best role models. I was so frustrated a few years ago when an orthodontist made a comment to one of my twins that was less than empowering. He’s a good guy and I know he didn’t mean for his statement to be harmful. But I was quick to correct him as I think we all need to be aware of how insidious our biases are and how inadvertently they come out (me included!). My twin has a baby tooth that doesn’t have an adult tooth behind it, so at some point she might need an implant when the baby tooth comes out. The baby tooth has strong roots and could last for 20 years. Implants aren’t cheap and the orthodontist was trying to joke around and put me at ease with the expense and said, “don’t worry, by the time the baby tooth falls out, she’ll be married to a rich lawyer and he’ll have to foot the bill.”. I quickly said, “or she’ll be a rich lawyer and she’ll pay the bill all by herself. No rich husband required.”. My daughter stood there with her mouth hanging open, her 10-year old self not really grasping what had just happened. So let’s not say things like that to our daughters with all kinds of potential and big dreams ahead of them who don’t even know how things “used to be”. MMMM K? This particular kiddo is an athlete and she’s dying to see more female athlete role models in the professional sports world. I want to see that, too. And I can’t wait for the day when it isn’t something to celebrate, it’s just a normal part of the background. Women as breadwinners, women as athletes, women as whatever the f*ck they want to be. I don’t even think we need a hashtag for #strongwomen. I like that we do, but I want to point out that strength is pretty inherent in our gender. It’s not a rarity to stumble upon a strong woman. We are all strong. I have yet to meet a woman who isn’t strong. (Continued on next post ...) #iwd2019
Photo credit @katyjoyalice ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What makes your heart boom? ❤️⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Katy took this pic in my studio at The Life Feast soirée two weeks ago. That night made MY heart go boom... ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Yes, The Life Feast is an online creativity course, but because several OG life feasters are in my backyard, we got together for a night of ceviche, Chardonnay nay and creativity (oh and some alphabet soup...). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ My heart is crazy full right now. I’m so grateful to ALL of the women who are digging into The Life Feast TODAY and I’m so grateful for the ones who just finished. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When we live a life that excites rather than exhausts, we give our friends and peers permission to do the same. We are creating lives that aren’t the status quo or shackled by mommy guilt. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I don’t actually know when the next round will be. I do know that if this creative adventure is calling to you, get on in here. Doors close tonight. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Here’s a snippet of what’s inside ... ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Art of awareness Everyday Awe The curious camera Play + parade contemplative photography The positivity ratio there’s more but I can’t type on this tiny screen any longer. And this is enough to see if it makes your own heart boom. If so, don’t procrastinate. If not, no worries. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Yes you will get tips and prompts to create cool photos, and you’ll get tips and prompts to create a good life. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Happiness isn’t the goal. The goal is something even better... ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Are you in? Link in bio, closes tonight... #motherforker #thelifefeast
It’s Wednesday! What are you celebrating, today? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I know it seems ridiculous. Who celebrates Wednesdays? But you know what? I want to start cheering on the little victories. Why? Because it gives us momentum. I’ve been completely guilty of not even celebrating the BIG victories. I wish I had celebrated when I sold our restaurant. Or sold our restaurant building a few years later. These were HUGE milestones, and I just kind of breezed right past them. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ In positive psychology, one of the top interventions is savoring. Savoring these moments and milestones, big and small, to keep them front and center in our psyche longer… Of course, I didn’t know that then… But I do now. And I savor the sh*t out of my life ;-). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So today I’m celebrating the end of my first round of The Life Feast, which was absolutely incredible. The women in my first round warmed my heart, inspired me and boosted my own creativity in a million different ways. I am forever grateful for my OG Life Feasters! It wasn’t easy to make a huge pivot in my business and these women made it so.much.fun. and worth the crazy brain I subjected myself to. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I am also celebrating that I have a very cool cohort of new students - some I’ve known forever and some are brand new to my world. I’m so excited to meet them and see my old friends. I’m celebrating all of the women who are taking the time to be creative. We tend to take care of quite a lot of the day-to-day stuff and junk in our worlds. But taking 30-minutes a week to life feast means that this time is JUST FOR US. It’s a foreign concept to so many of us. So I’m celebrating this BIG time… ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ These cupcakes were from my twinnies’ 13th birthday this fall. We celebrate our kiddos all the time. I love celebrating my kiddos. They are what I’m most grateful for. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But I’m more than a mom. And today I’m going to celebrate myself and all of my life feasters a lil’ bit … ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So tell me what are you ready to celebrate and savor on this Wednesday. If you’re savoring the sunshine, send some my way, it’s snowing a million more feet here... if you’re thinking about life feasting, hurry up and click on my bio link.
Pretty wild portrait, isn't it? This is a an art piece that was stationed outside of a hotel conference room in Dallas where I was all weekend for a coaching conference. I loved cruising past this inspiring piece every time I went to the bathroom. Reimagining the old. Creativity out of the everyday. A little analog throwback. It delights me for many reasons. 💾📼🎞⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The Life Feast (link in bio) is all about flipping your focus and finding art in the unexpected. Coaching is also about flipping your focus and flipping your mindset on its head. 🔦This 🎨piece takes that concept to a whole new level. 📷⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Do you remember these old floppy disks💾? If you're my age, you probably do. My kids would probably not have any idea what on earth these are ... ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ******PS The Life Feast🍽📷 starts on March 7th. Link in bio for sneak peek. Doors are closing⏰ ..... jump in and have some fun creating with me. ✅No pressure photo lessons plus inspiration to just live a bigger and more zesty life, all on your own time. It’s created for busy women. It’s creative self care (and you don’t need to be “creative” to do it). 🔎are you ready to flip your focus a bit???? 😎
Have you ever thought about everyday awe? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Just being in awe of the everyday details of life that are incredibly beautiful? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I took this photo last summer at the rodeo. I was teaching my younger photo students about shutter speed and we were on a crazy fun field trip to the rodeo to work on action shots. Yet, as we were walking around before the rodeo started, we were able to get a bit more up close and personal with the horses. And slow down. We don’t slow down much, these days, do we? I know that I need to be pretty intentional about slowing down. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Just being aware of everyday beauty. everyday awe. everyday details is a big component of the life feast. Because when we get mired in the everyday minutiae, everyday bills, everyday carpool, everyday grocery shopping, our life starts to just resemble one big to do list…. And I don’t know about you, but, as much as I love checking things off of my list, I also love spending a few moments in awe or curiosity or creativity … it’s more rejuvenating than just getting more sh*t done. Because my in box will always have new emails in it. There will always be new pieces of laundry in the hamper. Bills arrive daily. We don’t ever truly “catch up” on everything we have to do. So, instead, we need to make time to pause and notice all of those beautiful individual moments that make up our lives… ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The Life Feast has been closed for the last two months and it starts this Thursday, March 7th. The window to sign up is rapidly shrinking, so if it’s been something that piqued your interest, get your butt in there. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ YES, you will learn how to take better photos AND see your life through a more creative lens. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’ve added a whole bunch of bonus photo tip tutorials (and no special equipment or experience is needed). DM me with ANY questions you might have. I promise you’ll love it …. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Doors are closing so come and join me in The Life Feast! Click the link in my profile for all of the details and to sign up.
This incredible photo is from one of my life feast students, Karen Goedert (@karenandmaya). Karen did not have much photo experience before the class and she used her iPhone for this stunning image. She’s a busy working mom, like so many of us. And I’m thrilled she made time for herself these past 7 weeks and made time to play with photography and made time to get creative. It actually didn’t even require all that much “time”, just 20 -30 minutes a week. The class is online. This was from a photo meditation prompt - the art of seeing. Pretty sure Karen passed with flying colors! Most would overlook this, and I think these little delicate snowy street steps from a bird are just stunning. I love that she captured what plenty wouldn’t have stopped for. If you’ve been interested in photography, and you want a flexible class that’s on your own schedule and involves a whole lot of crazy fun prompts and ideas about how to just live a more aware, creative, playful, adventurous, awe-struck life, then please join me for the next round. It starts March 7. Link in bio for details. No you don’t need to be creative, artistic, have a fancy camera or any prior experience. You just need curiosity .... I can’t wait to “see” you in class. dm me with any questions or if you need me to smack talk that inner voice (that might be now making a whole lot of excuses for why you shouldn’t do this ;)). So who’s in??? 📷😎🍴#thelifefeast
Alcatraz 2018 ... Have you ever been? I had an adventure with my twinnies last year at this time. We went to San Francisco (without our GPS, aka Matt). I'm terrible at navigating cities. I have zero sense of direction, but I love adventures and value getting out of my comfort zone. This is what we're talking about in The Life Feast this week ... how adventures are a fantastic training ground for leaving our comfort zones ... with big rewards :) 📷 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ the twinnies and I loved Alcatraz. We live in a beautiful little snow globe in Colorado, but I adore taking pictures of peeling paint and prison cells. I see beauty everywhere. I love the Dorothea Lange quote, The camera is an instrument that teaches you how to see without a camera. The audio tour is phenomenal as well. Listening to the craggy old prisoners tell their tales of lunchroom brawls, narrow escapes and the loneliness inside of those walls. We are all connected through our stories. Humans. Things might not look pretty on the outside, but texture, layers and insights create deeper connections ... I love that the twinnies loved this peeling prison as much as I do. They ran around following the audio tour, scaring the crap out of me when I temporarily couldn't find them, but also couldn't yell to them because they had headphones on... ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I'd love to share with you how to not just take the easy photos of scenic vistas, but to look a little deeper and see beauty in the everyday, beauty in the not-so-beautiful. If you're interested in joining this band of phenomenal photog women who are adventuring around capturing something that goes way beyond a Kodak moment, then hit the link in my profile (zero experience required). Next session of The Life Feast starts on March 7th. I promise your perspective will be changed, forever. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So, what kind of adventures are you planning on having this Sunday?