• The process of healing is NOT easy. ⠀ When healing from anything, the pain often gets worse before it gets better. ⠀⠀ The process of waking up, of coming out of a state of numbness of denial about whatever you’re dealing with is really painful. It’s why your brain and body made you numb to it- so you could SURVIVE. ⠀ I want you to know I see you and I’ve been there. I’m still healing, I’m on this journey with you and I am still stopped in my tracks by the pain of personal development from time to time. ⠀⠀ You’re going to want to quit. You’re going to feel like “now is just not the right time.” And “I should wait until I’m more motivated or it’s easier.” ⠀⠀ It will get easier but ONLY if you go through it and don’t retreat. Every time you go back to the cold you have to start the whole process all over again. ⠀ This is the number one thing I wish people knew. It breaks my heart when I see people stop the healing process because they get into more pain. ⠀ I of course honor where everyone in. This is a marathon not a sprint, but I’ve learned the only way OUT is THROUGH. ⠀ You can do this. One step, one day, one meal, one hour, one minute at a time. These moments string together and start getting easier. ⠀⠀ Wherever you are on this journey I believe and see you. You got this.⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ PS- I also still love you if you choose not to heal right now. Healing is always available for you. You can take a break and time out. That’s the beauty of self growth, you are on nobody’s timeline but your OWN! #depressionrelief #anxietyrelief #mentalhealthquotes #eatingdisorderrecovery #edwarrior #addictionrecovery #recovery #sober #sobriety #bulimiarecovery #edrecovery #healingquotes #healingjourney #sobrietyquotes
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    The process of healing is NOT easy. ⠀ When healing from anything, the pain often gets worse before it gets better. ⠀⠀ The process of waking up, of coming out of a state of numbness of denial about whatever you’re dealing with is really painful. It’s why your brain and body made you numb to it- so you could SURVIVE. ⠀ I want you to know I see you and I’ve been there. I’m still healing, I’m on this journey with you and I am still stopped in my tracks by the pain of personal development from time to time. ⠀⠀ You’re going to want to quit. You’re going to feel like “now is just not the right time.” And “I should wait until I’m more motivated or it’s easier.” ⠀⠀ It will get easier but ONLY if you go through it and don’t retreat. Every time you go back to the cold you have to start the whole process all over again. ⠀ This is the number one thing I wish people knew. It breaks my heart when I see people stop the healing process because they get into more pain. ⠀ I of course honor where everyone in. This is a marathon not a sprint, but I’ve learned the only way OUT is THROUGH. ⠀ You can do this. One step, one day, one meal, one hour, one minute at a time. These moments string together and start getting easier. ⠀⠀ Wherever you are on this journey I believe and see you. You got this.⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ PS- I also still love you if you choose not to heal right now. Healing is always available for you. You can take a break and time out. That’s the beauty of self growth, you are on nobody’s timeline but your OWN! #depressionrelief #anxietyrelief #mentalhealthquotes #eatingdisorderrecovery #edwarrior #addictionrecovery #recovery #sober #sobriety #bulimiarecovery #edrecovery #healingquotes #healingjourney #sobrietyquotes
  • Thursday thoughts❤️ No energy for a long caption tonight 🤪. Yes I am a really human who makes these posts and responds😘
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    Thursday thoughts❤️ No energy for a long caption tonight 🤪. Yes I am a really human who makes these posts and responds😘
  • Not wanting someone in your life doesn’t make you mean or a bad person. ⠀ You can have compassion for someone, and even love the person and still not want a relationship with them. ⠀ Not all relationships work for us, not all people are able to meet our needs. ⠀ You get to choose the relationships you have in your life and what they look like.⠀ ⠀ #boundaries #depressionrelief #healingquotes #anxietyrelief #compassion #healingjourney #mentalhealthsupport #communication #communicationskills
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    Not wanting someone in your life doesn’t make you mean or a bad person. ⠀ You can have compassion for someone, and even love the person and still not want a relationship with them. ⠀ Not all relationships work for us, not all people are able to meet our needs. ⠀ You get to choose the relationships you have in your life and what they look like.⠀ ⠀ #boundaries #depressionrelief #healingquotes #anxietyrelief #compassion #healingjourney #mentalhealthsupport #communication #communicationskills
  • I look forward to the day where we can talk about reducing our alcohol intake the same way we talk about smoking cigarettes! What other benefits am I missing? #sober #sobriety #alcoholfree #boozefree #aa #alcoholicsanonymous #soberaf #sobrietyrocks #sobercurious #teetotaler #recovery #odaat #recoveryispossible #recoveryjourney #recoverywarrior
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    I look forward to the day where we can talk about reducing our alcohol intake the same way we talk about smoking cigarettes! What other benefits am I missing? #sober #sobriety #alcoholfree #boozefree #aa #alcoholicsanonymous #soberaf #sobrietyrocks #sobercurious #teetotaler #recovery #odaat #recoveryispossible #recoveryjourney #recoverywarrior
  • Today is National Sober Day! There are many reasons to stop drinking. The day I stopped drinking over six years ago was not my lowest moment. It was simply the moment I had enough. You don’t need to “hit bottom” to stop drinking. You don’t need to call yourself an “alcoholic” or even “sober” to stop drinking. I shudder thinking how many more people could take care of themselves we reduced the stigma of being sober, or not drinking. Or if we as a society were just able to have a conversation about the negative side effects drinking has on our lives, even if we don’t have a “problem”. This is why I am so open about being sober. Shame thrives in the dark and I knew early on in my sobriety journey that I wanted to be upfront about it. I didn’t want to hide because I spent so much of my life hiding and trying to fit in and shove my unhealthy past under the bed. I am open about being sober because when I was getting sober there was nobody I knew and respected who was open about their sobriety. I used to google “celebrities who don’t drink” to try to make myself feel better. If you are sober, what was the moment for you that you said enough? I’ve tagged some of my favorite sober people on Instagram! Who else do you love so I can follow them all! #sober #boozefree #alcoholfree #sobriety #soberaf #teetotaler #recovery #addictionrecovery #alcoholicsanonymous #aa #wedorecover #odaat #soberissexy #sobercurious #sobrietyrocks #sobrietyissexy #soberwomen
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    Today is National Sober Day! There are many reasons to stop drinking. The day I stopped drinking over six years ago was not my lowest moment. It was simply the moment I had enough. You don’t need to “hit bottom” to stop drinking. You don’t need to call yourself an “alcoholic” or even “sober” to stop drinking. I shudder thinking how many more people could take care of themselves we reduced the stigma of being sober, or not drinking. Or if we as a society were just able to have a conversation about the negative side effects drinking has on our lives, even if we don’t have a “problem”. This is why I am so open about being sober. Shame thrives in the dark and I knew early on in my sobriety journey that I wanted to be upfront about it. I didn’t want to hide because I spent so much of my life hiding and trying to fit in and shove my unhealthy past under the bed. I am open about being sober because when I was getting sober there was nobody I knew and respected who was open about their sobriety. I used to google “celebrities who don’t drink” to try to make myself feel better. If you are sober, what was the moment for you that you said enough? I’ve tagged some of my favorite sober people on Instagram! Who else do you love so I can follow them all! #sober #boozefree #alcoholfree #sobriety #soberaf #teetotaler #recovery #addictionrecovery #alcoholicsanonymous #aa #wedorecover #odaat #soberissexy #sobercurious #sobrietyrocks #sobrietyissexy #soberwomen
  • I used to struggle a lot with judgement.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I was extremely judgmental of others and I hated this about myself. I thought it made me a bad person.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But the meaner I was to myself about this, the more judgmental I got.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This is because the more I judged myself, the more I naturally judged others.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If we want to stop judging others we have to start with not judging ourselves. Because the second you are worse than one person, you are better than someone else.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Once this hierarchy starts, the most effective way to break out of it is through compassion— for OURSELVES and for OTHERS.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Start with being compassionate to yourself, then you will be able to create compassion for others.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Do you struggle with comparison and judgement?!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #judgement #anxiety #comparisonisthethiefofjoy #comparison #depression #anxietyrelief #anxiousmommy #mentalhealthawareness #edrecovery #eatingdisorderrecovery #addictionrecovery #mentalhealthmatters
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    I used to struggle a lot with judgement.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I was extremely judgmental of others and I hated this about myself. I thought it made me a bad person.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But the meaner I was to myself about this, the more judgmental I got.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This is because the more I judged myself, the more I naturally judged others.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If we want to stop judging others we have to start with not judging ourselves. Because the second you are worse than one person, you are better than someone else.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Once this hierarchy starts, the most effective way to break out of it is through compassion— for OURSELVES and for OTHERS.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Start with being compassionate to yourself, then you will be able to create compassion for others.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Do you struggle with comparison and judgement?!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #judgement #anxiety #comparisonisthethiefofjoy #comparison #depression #anxietyrelief #anxiousmommy #mentalhealthawareness #edrecovery #eatingdisorderrecovery #addictionrecovery #mentalhealthmatters
  • SELF CARE HAS BECOME A TRICKY SUBJECT.⠀ ⠀⠀ There are so many differing views on what is self care. Also companies are now capitalizing on self care, so it has become something to buy rather than do.⠀ ⠀⠀ Additionally, avoidance of doing certain things increases our anxiety.⠀ ⠀ Staying in bed for days on end feeds depression (though both these things feel better temporarily).⠀ ⠀⠀ Unsurprisingly, one is the most common questions I get asked by clients, is how do I know what self care is? How do I know if I’m taking care of myself by staying in or going out?⠀ ⠀⠀⠀ ASK YOURSELF —> Will I feel better or worse AFTERWARDS? Not during, but after the event or commitment is over?⠀ ⠀⠀ If the idea of skipping brunch with friends gives you a sense of relief, skip it! If you will feel guilty and go into a shame spiral, I would recommend going anyways.⠀ ⠀⠀ You also can start to learn your patterns. For example, when I book a workout class I am pretty much guaranteed to NOT want to go. But I feel SO much better 100% of the time. And skipping makes me feel worse 100% of the time.⠀ ⠀⠀ Of course I do not always follow this guideline. But I do know that me skipping a class I originally and thoughtfully planned is not self care.⠀ ⠀⠀ Try this out and see how it works for you!⠀ ⠀⠀ I also want to be mindful that those of us that are recovering perfectionists or in #edrecovery may need to work through this before they can use this guideline because you may unrealistic expectations for yourself and always feel guilty no matter what.⠀ ⠀⠀ Hope your weekend is filled with lots of REAL self care!⠀ ⠀ #selfcare #realselfcare #soberaf #recoveringperfectionist #selfcareideas #depression #perfectionist #selfcareinhealthcare #selfcarefirst #selfcarethread #selfcarethreads
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    SELF CARE HAS BECOME A TRICKY SUBJECT.⠀ ⠀⠀ There are so many differing views on what is self care. Also companies are now capitalizing on self care, so it has become something to buy rather than do.⠀ ⠀⠀ Additionally, avoidance of doing certain things increases our anxiety.⠀ ⠀ Staying in bed for days on end feeds depression (though both these things feel better temporarily).⠀ ⠀⠀ Unsurprisingly, one is the most common questions I get asked by clients, is how do I know what self care is? How do I know if I’m taking care of myself by staying in or going out?⠀ ⠀⠀⠀ ASK YOURSELF —> Will I feel better or worse AFTERWARDS? Not during, but after the event or commitment is over?⠀ ⠀⠀ If the idea of skipping brunch with friends gives you a sense of relief, skip it! If you will feel guilty and go into a shame spiral, I would recommend going anyways.⠀ ⠀⠀ You also can start to learn your patterns. For example, when I book a workout class I am pretty much guaranteed to NOT want to go. But I feel SO much better 100% of the time. And skipping makes me feel worse 100% of the time.⠀ ⠀⠀ Of course I do not always follow this guideline. But I do know that me skipping a class I originally and thoughtfully planned is not self care.⠀ ⠀⠀ Try this out and see how it works for you!⠀ ⠀⠀ I also want to be mindful that those of us that are recovering perfectionists or in #edrecovery may need to work through this before they can use this guideline because you may unrealistic expectations for yourself and always feel guilty no matter what.⠀ ⠀⠀ Hope your weekend is filled with lots of REAL self care!⠀ ⠀ #selfcare #realselfcare #soberaf #recoveringperfectionist #selfcareideas #depression #perfectionist #selfcareinhealthcare #selfcarefirst #selfcarethread #selfcarethreads
  • I’m so excited to share that I’m giving away TWO TICKETS to NINE Online Retreat!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The event is September 19-30th and it’s going to be amazing!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I am doing a Self Care class and can’t wait to be with you!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Enter to win a ticket to NINE online retreat!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ HOW TO ENTER:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ - Follow @therapyforwomen and @nineretreat⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ - Like this post⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ - Tag a friend below (increase your chances by tagging multiple friends! Each tag must be in a separate comment to count as additional entries)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ BONUS ENTRIES⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ - share this post to your story and rage @nineretreat⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ - tell us why you’d love to attend NINE Online retreat⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ - use hashtags #nineonlineretreat and #nineretreat⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Giveaway closes Sunday 9/13/20 at 11:59pm ET. Winner will be announced on Monday 9/14. I will tag the winner in this post and by DM so keep a lookout!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You will have 24 hours to claim your ticket. Good luck!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Contest not sponsored by Instagram. Winners will be randomly selected.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #giveaway #sponsored
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    I’m so excited to share that I’m giving away TWO TICKETS to NINE Online Retreat!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The event is September 19-30th and it’s going to be amazing!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I am doing a Self Care class and can’t wait to be with you!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Enter to win a ticket to NINE online retreat!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ HOW TO ENTER:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ - Follow @therapyforwomen and @nineretreat⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ - Like this post⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ - Tag a friend below (increase your chances by tagging multiple friends! Each tag must be in a separate comment to count as additional entries)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ BONUS ENTRIES⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ - share this post to your story and rage @nineretreat⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ - tell us why you’d love to attend NINE Online retreat⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ - use hashtags #nineonlineretreat and #nineretreat⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Giveaway closes Sunday 9/13/20 at 11:59pm ET. Winner will be announced on Monday 9/14. I will tag the winner in this post and by DM so keep a lookout!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You will have 24 hours to claim your ticket. Good luck!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Contest not sponsored by Instagram. Winners will be randomly selected.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #giveaway #sponsored
  • Double tap if you’re also obsessed with @brenebrown ! ⠀ I still can’t get over her Netflix special. I just rewatched it! ⠀ One of my favorite things Brené Brown talks about in her Netflix special (and in her books) is about how vulnerability is NOT the same as disclosure. ⠀ According to Brené...⠀ Vulnerability is defined as “uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure.” ⠀ Nowhere does it say, sharing information about yourself, in fact, in Brene’s book Daring Greatly, overexposing information about yourself is the OPPOSITE of vulnerability. Brene calls this “floodlighting” and it happens when we overshare especially in a big group or with people we don’t know. We don’t really have to risk emotional exposure with them, whereas if we told someone really close to us, that may actually be vulnerability. ⠀ This is such a common thing that is happening today with social media and with authenticity becoming a buzz word. ⠀ So I just wanted to share this with you as a reminder that being vulnerable can look simple. And this is such good news! Because according to Brene’s research, vulnerability is the birthplace of joy and belonging.⠀ ⠀ So here are some practical ways you can practice vulnerability. You may already be doing some of these!⠀ ⠀ 1. Telling someone you love them 2. Telling someone your opinion about something rather than glossing over it 3. Setting a boundary 4. Taking a promotion at work 5. Asking for a raise 6. Looking people in the eye 7. Saying no 8. Starting a new routine 9. Moving jobs/ homes etc. 10. Asking for help ⠀ Of course these all depend on your comfort level! Let me know how you will be practicing vulnerability today and let’s empower each other!⠀ ⠀ I’ve honestly felt super vulnerable with the expansion of my practice. It’s scary knowing I can fail. It’s scary having to learn new skills and manage others. But I’m showing up anyway. ⠀ I hope you’ll join me! #vulnerability #brenebrownquotes #brenebrown #boundaries #healthyboundaries #daringgreatly #courage #vulnerabilityisstrength #vulnerable #authenticity
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    Double tap if you’re also obsessed with @brenebrown ! ⠀ I still can’t get over her Netflix special. I just rewatched it! ⠀ One of my favorite things Brené Brown talks about in her Netflix special (and in her books) is about how vulnerability is NOT the same as disclosure. ⠀ According to Brené...⠀ Vulnerability is defined as “uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure.” ⠀ Nowhere does it say, sharing information about yourself, in fact, in Brene’s book Daring Greatly, overexposing information about yourself is the OPPOSITE of vulnerability. Brene calls this “floodlighting” and it happens when we overshare especially in a big group or with people we don’t know. We don’t really have to risk emotional exposure with them, whereas if we told someone really close to us, that may actually be vulnerability. ⠀ This is such a common thing that is happening today with social media and with authenticity becoming a buzz word. ⠀ So I just wanted to share this with you as a reminder that being vulnerable can look simple. And this is such good news! Because according to Brene’s research, vulnerability is the birthplace of joy and belonging.⠀ ⠀ So here are some practical ways you can practice vulnerability. You may already be doing some of these!⠀ ⠀ 1. Telling someone you love them 2. Telling someone your opinion about something rather than glossing over it 3. Setting a boundary 4. Taking a promotion at work 5. Asking for a raise 6. Looking people in the eye 7. Saying no 8. Starting a new routine 9. Moving jobs/ homes etc. 10. Asking for help ⠀ Of course these all depend on your comfort level! Let me know how you will be practicing vulnerability today and let’s empower each other!⠀ ⠀ I’ve honestly felt super vulnerable with the expansion of my practice. It’s scary knowing I can fail. It’s scary having to learn new skills and manage others. But I’m showing up anyway. ⠀ I hope you’ll join me! #vulnerability #brenebrownquotes #brenebrown #boundaries #healthyboundaries #daringgreatly #courage #vulnerabilityisstrength #vulnerable #authenticity
  • I don’t know about you, but I sometimes need this reminder. It’s normal and healthy for interest, excitement and motivation to wax and wane. This doesn’t mean there’s something wrong! #reminder #anxietyrelief #depressionhelp #recovery #edrecovery #healing #healingjourney #eatingdisorderrecovery
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    I don’t know about you, but I sometimes need this reminder. It’s normal and healthy for interest, excitement and motivation to wax and wane. This doesn’t mean there’s something wrong! #reminder #anxietyrelief #depressionhelp #recovery #edrecovery #healing #healingjourney #eatingdisorderrecovery