Listening is a skill that takes practice. . Often when we know we disagree with our partner, or are revisiting a conflict we have had before, our brains take us into self protective (defensive) mode and out of listening (problem-solving) mode. . @Estherperelofficial reminds us that we don't have to agree to flex our listening muscles. In fact, when we don't agree, we have to listen harder. . Tap the link in our bio to get our guide to conflict-free communication to start improving your listening skills and improve your relationship. 
Self care isn't just about getting your haircut or buying a new gadget. . . Real self care considers our economic realities and shouldn't be financially inaccessible. . . Ask yourself these two questions. Where they overlap is your self care roadmap. 
We know that you are bombarded with NORMS every day. So much so, that it might be difficult to allow yourself to want something that is outside of society's box. But guess what? The truth is, you and your partner(s) get to make the rules about what works for YOU. It's not the other way around. Sometimes these rules revolve around monogamy, family structure, or gender roles. But, if you want to make the changes you need to make, so that your relationship fits you, you have to let go of some expectations. . What relationship expectations and norms have you and your partner(s) let go of?