“Just fix me!”— Many of my patient’s and clients don’t ever come out and say it, but that’s what they’re all hoping. As if by osmosis being in the same room as me, they’ll magically transform, their ED will be gone, mental illness healed, and relationship with food and their bodies improved. .. 😬 Sorry to burst your bubble, but it just doesn’t work that way. Even when I prescribe medications, YOU still have to be the person to take it every day. .. 💗 But here’s the encouragement: I’ve been there. Millions of people have. Whatever change you’re hoping to make— recovery from an eating disorder, overcome depression, process trauma, stop dieting, heal your relationship with food, improve your body image, improve your marriage, and even increase healthy habits and behaviors— someone has already done it before you. .. 👊🏻 You’re not alone— no matter how isolated you feel. And you CAN do the work. It’s just about making small, good decisions consistently over time. It doesn’t require some mass shift, but it does require continued dedication. .. .. So tell me: what are you “working on” right now?
Why did you go on your first diet? Tell me 👇🏻 And what was the first diet? .. .. I’ve made it my life’s purpose to figure out WHY people do what they do— I was fortunate enough to take my fav hobby of “people watching” and turn it into a career 😂 But seriously... I’m even more curious as to WHY PEOPLE DIET. .. .. 🤔 It’s easy to say people just “want to lose weight” or “want to be healthy,” but in my experience, it’s always a little more detailed than that... and there are a million and one reasons we diet. .. .. For validation To feel loved Because we’re bored To fit in Because it’s “cool” To get control And so many other reasons! .. .. So I’m curious: do you know why YOU diet? And if not, I’ve got a course for that! 👊🏻 👉🏻Check out my free mini-class- So, What’s It About? #linkinbio
Happy ONE YEAR birthday to @letyourheartoutbook ! 🎈 🎉 Have you read my book yet?! .. 👧🏼 We used to be fun-loving, creative, fiery little girls with more dreams than we could fulfill in a lifetime. Then, we grew up. And learned to manage the day-to-day grind... all the whole slowly losing the essence of who WE are. We lost our hearts. .. 💗 Let Your Heart Out is part-memoir, part-guidebook teaching you my HEART method for helping you not only know yourself better, but process common hurts, struggles, and trials in your life. .. 🙌🏻 When the book was published, it ranked #1 in Motherhood, Parenting, Healthy Relationships, Creativity Self-Help, Christian Living and more... .. .. 📖 Some of the stories you’ll read about: — How I met my husband — My most embarrassing mommy moment — When my eating disorder began (+ why it continued for so long) — How I learned genuine self-compassion (+how you can too) — My experience with PPD — + so much more! .. .. 🧰 More importantly, you’ll learn: - How to uncover your unconscious - What is holding you (+most women) back from reaching potential - How to process your triggers and become aware of your real desires - + more! .. 🎉 Find Let Your Heart Out on @amazon in paperback, hardback or kindle- free for kindle unlimited users! 😁 .. ‼️ I know it’s hard to find time to read a book these days, but many readers share that my book is SUPER easy (and fun and quick) to read! Even my dad read my book in less than a day! So, check it out now! .. 💕 If you want to skip to the chase and learn the HEART method now, access my FREE webinar at: www.letyourheartoutbook.com #letyourheartout .. .. 😁 P.S. If you HAVE read my book, could you please PLEASE leave me a rating+review on Amazon? Thank you thank you! 🥰 .. 📷 @melissaraestyles
I don’t think you need another person to tell you: - Eat more vegetables. - Move your body regularly. - Get good sleep. - Decrease stress. .. .. A simple explanation of health would include those four things. We don’t need more KNOWLEDGE— tbh it only confuses us more and breeds a dysfunctional relationship with food and our bodies. .. .. What we DO need is help understanding our own bodies, figuring out our individual mental triggers, finding ways to reduce stress in our lives, and working toward realistic solutions that work for us as individuals. .. .. We don’t need more rules. We need more awareness, more attunement, more peace. ✌🏻💗
Do you eat wedding cake when you go to a wedding? 👇🏻Serious Q... .. ‼️ It’s no surprise wedding season is upon us! And it’s always shocking to me that even if you’re not the bride, groom, wedding party or family, people still feel they need to diet in order to “show up” and “look their best” (also spme fav air quotes—> read post from yesterday for context. 😂) .. 🍰 Unless you sincerely don’t like cake, I don’t understand people who can be on a diet for a WEDDING. I mean really?! It’s a wedding! To celebrate! To have fun! (And maybe I’m just still dreaming of my own delicious wedding cake, but wedding cakes can be the bomb!) .. 👰🏻 But more than avoiding cake, weddings have been rules by diet culture. It’s now expected that a bride will diet before her wedding and dresses are expected to shrink sizes by the time the wedding day comes... and sadly, women are then judged when they inadvertently gain weight (bc all diets fail). How many times have you heard critical ppl remark that a wife “let herself go” after getting married? .. 🤔 It makes me think: what if we could just be happy the way we were created? What if we opted out of the wedding-diet culture marriage? What if we just let ourselves be exactly who we were? 💕That sounds like a pretty good way to show up on your wedding day if you ask me!
What is YOUR favorite phrase to air quote? Tell me👇🏻 I need to add to my arsenal 😂 Ok y’all, here’s the real reasons I have to use words like “obese” and “overweight” and common vernacular that diet culture and weight loss industries use... .. 🤔 If you’re new to the #IntuitiveEating #antidiet #haes world, you’ll quickly pick up how often people will put words in quotes. Words and phrases that you may have come to believe as law before, like “weight loss” and “overweight” and “obese” and a whole lot more... .. 🥗🍔🍩 The reason for the air quotes is because based on countless of research studies: 1️⃣The pursuit of weight loss is futile at best, dangerous at worst. 2️⃣BMI (where categorical words like overweight and obese come from) is very very poor indicator of health— and was NEVER intended to be used as such. 3️⃣Being in a larger body is actually associated with BETTER health scores and longer life span. .. And a whole lot more facts... .. 🤷🏻♀️ So why do we still use these words at all? A few reasons that I personally still use them: 1️⃣You already know this language. It’s easy to speak in a way that you understand bc I can teach better that way. If I’m trying to teach a native Chinese speaker how to speak English only by speaking English to them, it’ll take a lot longer than if I could include some Chinese language in my teaching. .. 2️⃣ Research studies still use these words to categorize study participants, so when relaying facts, it’s helpful to have some kind of categorical language (tho we could change the language to something less stigmatizing). .. 3️⃣Honestly, it’s hard for me to come up with new language sometimes. In certain circumstances, I literally don’t know how else to say something. .. ‼️ Bottom line why we need to keep using the air quotes: ❗️We need NEW language around these issues because these words have been so tainted with negativity and stigma that there is no way to use these words without doing harm. ❗️What I’m saying is words like overweight and obese are so untwined with negative stigma (when it’s actually based on falsehoods) that it’s not safe to use these words in context with “health” references anymore. 🎤 drop!