I can vouch for this. It’s time I come clean. I’m a “k” person. I sometimes reply to texts with 1 letter or 1 word, & I’m not ashamed to admit it. And yes, it DOES make me feel like I’ve saved time. What’s worse, me not answering or me saying “k?” Just know that when I say it, it means that I got the message, it’s been received, & I’ll make moves on it later. Here’s how I see it: When you hit your 30s, petty bullshit is a waste of time. If I’m upset with you. I’ll tell you. If you made me feel shitty, I’ll tell you. If you pissed me off, I’ll tell you. With the actual words. And have an actual conversation. I will not be passive aggressive & make you try to decode my lame ass 1-letter or 1-word text responses because I’m too afraid to say how I actually feel. We’re adults now. We have voices. We need to use them. So yeah, I say “k” & it makes me feel like I’m Wonder Woman. Not because I’m being rude, but because I’m in my power. Deuces.
In this moment, my life changed forever. In this moment, I was transformed. It was 10 minutes before I had to catch an Uber to get to the airport on time for my flight back home to Pittsburgh from San Diego. Something had been plaguing me with anxiety all week. A quiet, looming anxiety that was light but heavy at the same time. I was surrounded by soul sisters that held space for me as I allowed myself to finally dig into what it was that was holding me back... keeping me from being able to fully throw myself into this big vision that I have for my business. The fear that I’m not good enough kept creeping in & was holding me captive, & it was so familiar that I didn’t even see it for what it was. But as soon as I let myself look at it, it all came rushing to the surface. Minutes before this photo, I was bawling my eyes out with tears of insecurity. They were tears that I had been holding back for decades. “What if they don’t love me? What if I fail? What if I’m not cut out for this? What if I lose everything? What if they don’t take me seriously? I’m not ready yet....” All those doubts that keep us from really going for what we want. But as soon as we ask ourselves the hard questions - like is that even true? Do people really think those things about me? Does the whole world believe I can’t do this? We can see the lies that our mind will weave just to keep us safe in the familiarity of what we know we CAN do. But just because we can do something doesn’t mean we‘re supposed to keep doing it. When you know you’re meant for more, you can’t fuck around with that small shit. There are people waiting for you who need you NOW. Not when you think you’re ready. You’re never gonna think you’re ready. Stop putting it off & take the leap that you’ve been waiting your whole life to take. It takes balls to be successful. It takes courage to be a winner. It takes defeat to be a true champion. To rise to the top, you’ve gotta know what it feels like to pushed down to the bottom. Swipe to see the moment my tears began to turn into a massively grateful & love-filled smile. Forever grateful for @marli_ansel & this turning point. I’m so glad @jennaj_photos captured it ♥️
This is something I had to tell myself over & over & over again when I was healing my body. When you get knocked off your feet, it can feel like the whole world is crumbling down around you. You feel lost. You feel hopeless. You don’t know if you’ll ever “get it back.” You start doubting yourself & those horrible thoughts start to creep in. You know the ones. They tell you: I’ll never be as good as I was before. I’m gonna lose all my strength. What if I don’t ever recover from this? What will I do if I can’t make this work? I have no other skills. My life is over. And the worst one... I knew this was too good to be true. I knew this would happen to me. It’s a self fulfilling prophecy. These thoughts can get in your head & make you believe that you never will know what success & happiness feel like ever again. But that’s a bunch of bull. The truth is, this setback is happening FOR you. Here’s why: Your mind & body needed a break. To get stronger physically & mentally, you need to know defeat. You needed a change in perspective to see what’s really important in life. You’re being saved from a potentially fatal or near fatal accident that you don’t know about. There are bigger plans for you & you’re being redirected. You’re being held where you are because it’s where you meet your soul mate. There are so many reasons these things happen that we won’t ever know about. That’s where trust comes in. Were put in these situations for a reason, & that is always to take us to greater heights than where we were heading before. Instead of fighting it, allow it. Use this time to dig into your soul. How can you push through to become the best version of yourself? THAT version of you is the one who wins championships. THAT version of you is the one who dominates. THAT version of you is the one who is unstoppable.
When you’re on the cusp of your next level of success, shit gets crazy heavy. It’s like you’ve been doing all the right things, momentum’s been good, you’ve been feeling pumped up & committed to making things happen, & then all of a sudden the wind gets knocked out of you & you can’t breathe. The world seems to go dark. You feel things you haven’t felt in a long time - things you thought were all in the past. You’re drowning. You’re suffocating. You can’t find the door to get out of the panic room, & time is running out. Do you know that feeling? When you go from feeling like, “hell yes, I’m on my way, man! There’s nothing that can stop me. I can FEEL it, I’m gonna get mine, finally!” But then it’s like a bomb goes off & blows up all the progress you had made. Thats what happens RIGHT BEFORE you hit that next level in your game. Shit hits the fan & it feels like you’re trapped in this vortex where you can’t move forward OR backward. There’s a ton of fear, anxiety, chaos, & judgment. You start questioning yourself. How could this be happening? How did I go from almost getting there to being on my ass in a tailspin? Listen. This is happening FOR you, bc the next level IS right in front of you. It’s right behind this shitstorm of doubt & fear. It’s activating old pain so you can let it go, cause that shit’s too heavy to rise up with you. I’m going through this now. My shame voice is LOUD right now. My “not-enoughness” fear is at a 12/10. It feels like I’m screaming for help & no one can hear me. But I’ve been doing this a long time, & I know that working through this is how to open the door to get to that next level. You’ve been knocked down. But you’re not out. You’re not out at ALL!! You’re SO close, but you have to look at all the shit that’s being thrown at you & see what it’s there to teach you so you can get the lesson & move on. Your success is right on the other side, man! It’s so clear. You ARE right there. Ride the wave, feel it, let it all be there. THAT is how you get through. Accept what’s happening. Trust it. And let it go. Let it go to level up. That’s how energy works. Are you ready? Good. Here we go, then. See ya at the top 😉
We’re impatient. We rush through life, setting goals & achieving them without ever allowing us to feel the pleasure of having achieved what we wanted. You’re experiencing what you are right now because you asked for it, either consciously or unconsciously. Slow business week? Maybe last week you were feeling overwhelmed & asked for things to slow down & the Universe is giving you what you asked for. Instead of stepping into fear or worry, allow yourself to enjoy the peace of not having more emails to reply to or phone calls to take. Single but want a relationship? Maybe after your last relationship you said that you were never going to date anyone ever again. The Universe isn’t sending you anyone because you haven’t taken this time of solitude to fall in love with yourself. Feeling overstretched or overcommitted? On some level, you probably wanted to be included. You wanted to feel needed & you wanted to be busy so that you didn’t have any spare time to think about anything painful. Injured & out for the season? You may have wished to have some time off because the pressure had become too much. We get the things we ask for, & then when we get them we get angry & we reject them. We resist them. We say we don’t want them, but we created them! If we would just slow down enough to realize that these situations were all given to us FOR us, we could use them to learn & deepen our connection to ourselves. Every moment is a blessing. But we’re too busy moving 1 million miles an hour that we miss it. What we resist persists, it gets stronger. Accept where you are. Use what you have. Whatever you have right now is there to take you to the next level. See everything for what it is. Be grateful for what you do have when you have it. Then, you can move onto the next thing. Becoming unstoppable starts with being where you are & using what you have now FULLY. Then, we enhance that power by digging into it. Use what ya got to get what ya want. Simple. Slow down. Be Here, Now. Check the latest podcast episode on awareness to take your power to the next level. Link in bio.