Why do we apologize for taking up space? . Last night, my husband and I had a rare date night at a lakeside restaurant, one that is extraordinarily busy in the summer months. As we were leaving, a large group of like 15 people was walking in the door. . We had to stand aside and wait for their group to enter... no big deal. But here’s where it gets interesting - every WOMAN who walked in said “Oh, gosh, sorry! There’s a lot of us! Eep!” .:. While all the men sauntered in. (Who knows, maybe they felt awkward too and wanted to apologize, but didn’t. I haven’t fully mastered my mind reading skills yet. 😂) . Anyway, back to the women.... If just one woman had commented, I wouldn’t have noticed, but nearly every woman apologized; to me specifically. . It was intriguing. And it’s an epidemic. It’s fine to be polite, but let’s stop apologizing for everything. Let’s try: “Thanks so much for your patience!” instead. It’s okay to take up space. In that specific scenario, they should recognize I’m a grown adult and I can wait my turn appropriately and with grace, even if it takes awhile. It’s like when you’re checking out at the grocery store and you panic to get your credit card into your wallet after the transaction because the next person is hot on your trail ready to check out. . For the longest timed it made me so nervous that I would just shove my card and receipt in my wallet or my pocket just to get out of the way.. but now I move when I’m ready. I’m okay taking up space. Plus I kept misplacing my cars. Taking up space means holding your ground. . It means using your voice and remembering just who the hell you are. . It means feeling like you belong in every room you’re in. You deserve to exist here and now - and why wouldn’t you? . An exercise I once learned, that I use before a public speaking event or any other times I’m feeling uncomfortable, is to imagine myself standing wide feet and arms spread wide, repeating to myself “MY ceiling, MY walls, MY floor”. I’ve taught this to my young daughters too, when they feel like shrinking - and it works as a great reset every time. Try it out next time you’re struggling to be assertive. . Here’s to taking up space. ♥
Marketing lessons from Costco: Let’s talk about novelty. There’s a reason TV shows release a new series each season. Or why big box brands are always releasing NEW AND IMPROVED formulas. Or why you suddenly want to redecorate every time your favorite retailer launches a new line. Or buy a new wardrobe when a new trend is announced. Some brands like Apple do this on purpose and “cannibalize” their products by slowing down their software when they release something new (don’t deny it, it’s a thing!) Our brains love novelty. We crave the new opportunities and we don’t want to miss out. You can create this same result by freshening up your offers and creating a feeling of new with your products. You can build an entire framework, formula, blueprint or system around the NEW way you figured out how to bring a result. Give it a shot next time you’re crafting an offer, what do you have to lose?
Volunteering with the kids to make and deliver lunches with Operation Sandwhich. ♥️ (**Operation Sandwich is a grassroots program that exists to end childhood hunger by feeding kids when free and reduced meals are not accessible at school.)
I’m either the best mom ever or the worst one ever. Jury’s still out. #surprisingthekids #SundaesonSunday #FunTraditions
A lot of up and coming entrepreneurs that I talk to are holding back before they’ve even fully started because: 1. They’re afraid of paying taxes. 2. They know a business comes with expenses. . But, this is like worrying and stressing about needing to buy a new wardrobe if you’d lose weight. You could just choose to be grateful for the change and excited to go shopping. . (Like everything), there’s a positive way and a negative way to look at this. You can be filled with a feeling of dread about paying your taxes and your expenses OR you can be grateful that you made the money in the first place. . Just remember, that’s your fear talking. . Once you’ve got your first 5 clients, you’d never go backwards and you would only keep growing to find even more clients. . Yes, running a business comes with expenses (and taxes), but there is a lifetime of returns and zero ceiling on the salary you can build for yourself. Patience and perseverance are key, but once you’ve gotten through the early challenges, your momentum may surprise you. . These expenses and taxes also aren’t surprises, either. But I get it - I have an account with $50K already set aside and ready for a check to be written to the IRS when I file for 2019. I knew it was coming and I’m prepared. - You could run and manage your business the same way - no fear, only excitement, necessary.
Blessed to call this home. 😍#MNLife
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“It’s easier for them because they don’t have kids.” “It’s easier for him because he’s a man.” You know what those are? Bull shit stories you’re telling yourself about why it’s not your turn yet. Well, it’s time to flip the script. Change your story. You can be a million dollar business owner AND a woman AND a mom. You have access to the same resources. You can build the same team. Without working 20 hours a day or abandoning the reason you started this business in the first place. Time to blow your own damn mind, like I did to mine this year. The ceilings literally don’t exist.