Trigger warning -> @itsme.laura.lee PTSD can affect a person's Activities of Daily Living (ADLs). What are ADLs? Bathing, eating, shopping, laundry, housework, paying the bills, and toileting are all examples. I wasn't immune from this. I legitimately have OCD, and need the house to be perfectly clean and picked up at all times. But when I can't even take a shower....you can imagine what the house looks like. And, that just feeds my OCD. I could go days or weeks without getting a shower...lying in bed....watching TV...and sleeping. Until Scott gently made me get up and shower. Occupational therapy (OT) can help you if you're having trouble with ADLs.
Trigger warning -> @itsme.laura.lee In sickness and in health. That's what we say during our wedding vows. How many marriages stay intact when one has PTSD? Veterans who have been diagnosed with PTSD have reported significant marital difficulties. Studies have shown that nearly 50 percent of their marriages end in divorce and that they are three times as more likely to have multiple marriages end in divorce. ~ Psych Central Scott and I have had a rough go of it and we even separated for a year. We're good now. We're really good. Not only did we survive, but our marriage thrives. We did have one recent problem though that I identified when it came to my symptoms resurfacing. He enabled me.
Trigger warning -> @itsme.laura.lee Anyone can develop PTSD at any age. This includes war veterans, children, and people who have been through a physical or sexual assault, abuse, accident, disaster, or other serious events. According to the National Center for PTSD, about 7 or 8 out of every 100 people will experience PTSD at some point in their lives. ~NIMH PTSD is not curable, but symptoms can resolve or greatly improve. However, a triggering event can cause those symptoms to return. Not everyone has the same symptoms. I have MDD, GAD, VCD, nightmares, flashbacks, conversion disorder, amnesia, and dissociation.
Read Daily Harassment -> @itsme.laura.lee Not all of my trauma happened while on active duty, but most of it did. Stalking, attempted rape, rape, harassment, physical assault - which I rarely bring up because it seems so insignificant compared to everything else. I think I was predisposed to depression. The first two years of my career didn't start off so great. The last four years were worst. The middle years were amazing....I planned on making a career out of the Navy. But that would never happen.
Trigger warning -> @itsme.laura.lee Sometimes it takes other people to first recognize that you have PTSD. That happened to me when I was an inpatient on the psych ward. I was there for my depression, but another patient startled me and then apologized because he said he didn't know I had PTSD. I told him I didn't. I was wrong. Another thing I was wrong about...? Thinking that a rape had to be completed to call it trauma. Thinking that just because I got away meant I had nothing to complain about. Until I mentioned, casually, to Becky, about the time I got away. She leaned forward and asked why I had never told her. I replied, Because I got away.
Read He Choked Me -> @itsme.laura.lee I don't believe in medication alone for PTSD. I strongly adhere to the belief that if you're on medication then you should be in psychotherapy as well. At least in the beginning until you're stable. You should keep a relationship with your therapist because when in crisis, I've found it much easier to reconnect with that same therapist than to find a new one. I've been through several therapists, but the longest relationship I had was with Becky - a LCSW I started seeing through the VA...and then followed her into private practice once she left the VA. Unfortunately she's no longer practicing. I've changed therapists 3x since then. You need to be open-minded and flexible, too....but please see someone who can help you through the process. The key to a good therapist is that he or she be someone you can trust.