I swear, I sit here and stare at the screen and never know what to write. So here's what's coming from my heart today- I'm exhausted. From work, which I'm so grateful, from my heart feeling heavy, from battling with anxiety and the ever present imposter syndrome in my life. Mental health matters, and I need to be better at acknowledging that my own mental health is part of that. Every day, my job is to lift other women up and it's the best thing on the face of the planet- but I forget that I need to fill my own cup and lift myself up. Many times, I choose to be silent with my struggles, but I know that we all need things to connect over- and this may be one. Rest, when you are weary. Rest, when your load is heavy. Let others help you. And right now, specifically, know that the justice we're working towards has many lanes and you do not need to occupy all of them- but we need to persist.
I think one of the most common things I hear about boudoir is “I could never look like that!”.... and I’m here to tell you otherwise. Boudoir sessions with me include: 💄💋 Hair and makeup with every single session 💃🏻👙👠 Full access to the client wardrobe- with over 250 pieces of lingerie in sizes XS-6X because all bodies are beautiful and deserving of something gorgeous that fits! (So many babes are so happy I have things to wear!! It’s so hard to choose!) 📸📸 An hour/hour and a half in front of my camera, with me yelling YESSSSS QUEEEEN and doing my happy dance every time I get a photo I’m obsessed with... which is like every single one. During all this.... you get me showing and teaching you how to do every 👏🏼 single 👏🏼 pose 👏🏼! Down to your fingertips and me reminding you to breathe, constantly! And of course... 😍🤭🥰🤯 The reveal of your images! Every single session I do, you get to see your images the same day. You get to take an hour break for lunch (and to stretch because you’ll be sore from posing your booty off) and I edit and retouch your images right then and there. The most common phrase I hear during the reveal?! “Are you sure that’s ME?!” Ummmm yes, yes it is and you look FLY AF. PS- YOU are beautiful, in case no one has told you today, just the way you are.
Love is love is love is love, in case anyone forgot. May your Friday be filled with love. 💖🏳️🌈
A little behind the scenes with the gorgeous @amandajeannn_! A reminder for all of you: all bodies are beautiful and deserve to be cherished, loved and shown. All. Bodies. Let me say it one more time.... all. bodies. ARE. WORTHY.
This is me. This is me in my office, struggling to get through basic tasks like scheduling instagram posts. Working through some deep shit on my own body image, spending some really uncomfortable time with myself and a lot of my insecurities. This is me working on myself to be a better ally to everyone- communities I’m part of (LGBTQ+) and communities that I can only be an ally to (BIPOC). Social channels make life seem so peachy in so many ways, and if I can be 100% honest with you, I’m kinda over that bullshit. My job is to document both monumental and minuscule moments. Someplace Images is built around redefining and revealing love and self love through passion, laughter and intimate photography with the goal of creating touchable, visible monuments to those life changing moments... and that’s not easy. Most of that starts with me- me knowing how to make others comfortable. Me knowing how to give definition to ALL types of moments. Me pushing others out of their comfort zones, while pushing myself out of mine. Many eyes- my own included- have been opened to issues we may have thought we had no part of, but truly do. We have so much to learn, I have so much to learn. Complacency is no longer an option, and I know that many others who look like me are probably feeling all types of uncomfortable. Good. Comfort zones don’t help us grow, they keep us stagnant. So, I’m just here to say hi, this is me, I’m going to start working on telling “perfection” and the ideals of “success” and “happiness” portrayed in social channels to fuck right off, being more open about my anxiety, bouts of depression and imposter syndrome that I experience constantly, talking about what makes me uncomfortable and again- being the best ally I can, which isn’t always just going to be sharing my own images. Things WILL look different around here, and I’m 100% okay with that.
Business does not “return to normal”. Right now, the options are adjust, change, grow…. And undoubtably be uncomfortable in many moments…. Or sink. Two things: Happy Pride Month, and I will 100% continue using my platform in all forms to amplify and elevate voices that are heard less than my own- specifically those in the BIPOC community. I’m a feminist (I’m sure that’s SHOCKING)… and if your feminism isn’t intersectional, it’s not feminism. I will be working on sharing MORE diversity amongst my channels. Tools I’ve found useful for education in the past week: On Netflix, watch 13th. Then watch it again. Then watch When They See Us. Sit with alllllll the uncomfortable feelings about our country and history and learn from these things. Most of the books for race education are sold out. But they’re still available on Kindle and via Audible. Read. Listen. Reflect a fuck ton. I started with White Fragility, and to sum up one section- sit the fuck down and listen more. Don’t justify yourself when you do or say something wrong- learn. change. Be uncomfortable. And then move forward. Stop living in your excuses. Education is not just this week, it’s going to be lifelong, and I'm ready to learn. 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🖤🖤
My social channels will be muted this week, to cut out white noise and #amplifymelanatedvoices. There is no “business as usual”, and there is no more space to ignore this. I will be resharing words of black educators and friends in my stories, and I urge you to follow them, and just LISTEN. Accounts to follow: @moemotivate @rachel.cargle @blklivesmatter @soleilhagan @theconsciouskid @seekwisdompcw @girlconfident And the reason this movement exists: @jessicawilson.msrd & @blackandembodied
If you’re new here, or just here for the pretty pictures, then maybe you’ve missed my constant narrative of acceptance- bodies, genders, who you love and skin tones. Allllll. Of. It. The words below are my friend @meghan_maydel’s, because I’m finding it hard to articulate right now. If someone tells you that business and politics don’t mix and that’s why they’re not speaking out: 👉🏼 Unfollow them. 👉🏼 Stop referring them. 👉🏼 Stop spending money with them. 𝗠𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘆 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗽𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿. And they’re afraid they’ll lose that power if they speak up against injustices. 𝗧𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝘄𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 (𝗼𝗿 𝗯𝗼𝘁𝗵): 1. They hold beliefs that seek to invalidate the victims to justify the oppressors 2. They service and are paid by people who see no value in standing up for minorities or against these injustices. In this case specifically, black Americans. 🗣 𝗕𝗼𝘁𝗵 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗯𝗲 𝗺𝗲𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘇𝗲𝗿𝗼 𝘁𝗼𝗹𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲. Take notice and stop enabling their bullshit. (This should go without saying, but stop supporting those who are vocal about enabling oppression...or who double down when called out on the damage they’re doing). ____________ 🚨 If you’re a business owner and staying silent because you’re not sure what to say: 👉🏼 Surround yourself with black and minority voices. 👉🏼 Share black and minority voices. 👉🏼 Watch the 13th documentary on Netflix and post that you’re watching it, nothing additional needed. 👉🏼 Text your minority business owner friends something that says you support them. An example is: “[no response needed] just wanted to send you a note to say that I see you, I love you, and I know that this hurt did not begin today, but I hope that the more visible anger we see this week indicates that a tide might *finally* begin to turn. 💛💛💛” 👉🏼 Adjust where you source things - intentionally seek out diversity. 👉🏼 Most importantly, take action. Do not stay silent, that aligns you with the oppressors. ***huge thank you to Dannie Lynn Fountain-Jagodzinski for her help with language and the ways we can take action now 💜