• ๐๐š๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐š๐ฅ ๐‚๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ž๐ช๐ฎ๐ž๐ง๐œ๐ž: โ€œIf you donโ€™t wear a coat outside today, you will get cold and wet, but itโ€™s your choice.โ€
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๐‹๐จ๐ ๐ข๐œ๐š๐ฅ ๐‚๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ž๐ช๐ฎ๐ž๐ง๐œ๐ž: โ€œIf you donโ€™t want to wear a waterproof outer layer, then we canโ€™t go on that hike with your friends, because I wouldnโ€™t be able to warm you up quickly in the woods once your layers got soaked.โ€โฃโฃ
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๐๐ฎ๐ง๐ข๐ฌ๐ก๐ฆ๐ž๐ง๐ญ: โ€œIf you donโ€™t put on your coat, you get no screen time today.โ€โฃโฃ
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Natural consequences occur naturally, with no intervention or action on our part. When we โ€œuseโ€ natural consequences, we are simply highlighting an impending cause and effect. ๐Ÿพ๐Ÿถ%โฃ
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Logical consequences are connected to the concern. You are intervening, but in a way that makes sense, to prevent an unacceptable natural consequence (like permanent damage to self, others, or the environment).โฃ ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿถ%โฃ
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Punishment is when you make your child suffer in the hope that it extinguishes an unwanted behavior.โฃ ๐Ÿถ%โฃ
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Understanding the distinction between these is important because you want to lean into natural consequences whenever humanly possible, then logical consequences when necessary, and avoid punishment altogether.โฃโฃ
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So the next time youโ€™re about to throw down an  if/then statement on your kid, pause for one second to check in with which type of consequence you are loading. ๐˜๐˜ง ๐˜ช๐˜ตโ€™๐˜ด ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ฏ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ญ, ๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ง ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ต๐˜ณ๐˜บ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ.
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    ๐๐š๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐š๐ฅ ๐‚๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ž๐ช๐ฎ๐ž๐ง๐œ๐ž: โ€œIf you donโ€™t wear a coat outside today, you will get cold and wet, but itโ€™s your choice.โ€ โฃโฃ ๐‹๐จ๐ ๐ข๐œ๐š๐ฅ ๐‚๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ž๐ช๐ฎ๐ž๐ง๐œ๐ž: โ€œIf you donโ€™t want to wear a waterproof outer layer, then we canโ€™t go on that hike with your friends, because I wouldnโ€™t be able to warm you up quickly in the woods once your layers got soaked.โ€โฃโฃ โฃโฃ ๐๐ฎ๐ง๐ข๐ฌ๐ก๐ฆ๐ž๐ง๐ญ: โ€œIf you donโ€™t put on your coat, you get no screen time today.โ€โฃโฃ โฃโฃ Natural consequences occur naturally, with no intervention or action on our part. When we โ€œuseโ€ natural consequences, we are simply highlighting an impending cause and effect. ๐Ÿพ๐Ÿถ%โฃ โฃโฃ Logical consequences are connected to the concern. You are intervening, but in a way that makes sense, to prevent an unacceptable natural consequence (like permanent damage to self, others, or the environment).โฃ ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿถ%โฃ โฃโฃ Punishment is when you make your child suffer in the hope that it extinguishes an unwanted behavior.โฃ ๐Ÿถ%โฃ โฃโฃ Understanding the distinction between these is important because you want to lean into natural consequences whenever humanly possible, then logical consequences when necessary, and avoid punishment altogether.โฃโฃ โฃโฃ So the next time youโ€™re about to throw down an if/then statement on your kid, pause for one second to check in with which type of consequence you are loading. ๐˜๐˜ง ๐˜ช๐˜ตโ€™๐˜ด ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ฏ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ญ, ๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ง ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ต๐˜ณ๐˜บ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ.
  • Not everything needs to be contained in a box, basket, or shelf, despite what Instagramโ€™s professional organizers and their plastic bin army might say.โฃ
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Sometimes a woven bin is just what you need, but itโ€™s not always necessary. ๐˜“๐˜ฆ๐˜ต ๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ฎ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ฌ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ฌ ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ.โฃ
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Weโ€™ve tried numerous shoe storage solutions here in our tiny foyer and the one that works best is . . . nothing. Every container only took up more space. Everyone is allowed one pair of shoes here (swapped out seasonally). Better for our use of the space, better for our wallet, and better for our planet. โฃ
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๐Š๐ž๐ž๐ฉ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ฌ๐ข๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž.
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    Not everything needs to be contained in a box, basket, or shelf, despite what Instagramโ€™s professional organizers and their plastic bin army might say.โฃ โฃ Sometimes a woven bin is just what you need, but itโ€™s not always necessary. ๐˜“๐˜ฆ๐˜ต ๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ฎ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ฌ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ฌ ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ.โฃ โฃ Weโ€™ve tried numerous shoe storage solutions here in our tiny foyer and the one that works best is . . . nothing. Every container only took up more space. Everyone is allowed one pair of shoes here (swapped out seasonally). Better for our use of the space, better for our wallet, and better for our planet. โฃ โฃ ๐Š๐ž๐ž๐ฉ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ฌ๐ข๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž.
  • Iris Chen joined me for a conversation on the Sage Family podcast today all about @untigering and itโ€™s so goodโ€”you do not want to miss it. โฃโฃ
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I wish I could give you a brief little synopsis of what we cover but honesty, I ask her about all. the. things.โฃโฃ
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I couldnโ€™t help it! Her journey from tiger mom to peaceful parenting and unschooling is so fascinating and her work is so important for the world to hear. Go listen! โฃโฃ
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And then read her book, which Iโ€™ve added to the Gentle Parenting book list. She uses honest vulnerability, sharp intellect, and cultural awareness to show us all how to shift the cultural tide within us away from the oppression of children (and the oppression of our own authentic selves). This book is a truly refreshing and inspiring lens for the gentle parenting and unschooling journey.
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    Iris Chen joined me for a conversation on the Sage Family podcast today all about @untigering and itโ€™s so goodโ€”you do not want to miss it. โฃโฃ โฃโฃ I wish I could give you a brief little synopsis of what we cover but honesty, I ask her about all. the. things.โฃโฃ โฃโฃ I couldnโ€™t help it! Her journey from tiger mom to peaceful parenting and unschooling is so fascinating and her work is so important for the world to hear. Go listen! โฃโฃ โฃโฃ And then read her book, which Iโ€™ve added to the Gentle Parenting book list. She uses honest vulnerability, sharp intellect, and cultural awareness to show us all how to shift the cultural tide within us away from the oppression of children (and the oppression of our own authentic selves). This book is a truly refreshing and inspiring lens for the gentle parenting and unschooling journey.
  • I could not love this quote from @untigering any harder. I know sheโ€™s writing about parenting and unschooling, but Iโ€™ve been putting the finishing touches on my new Sage Money class and itโ€™s the perfect exclamation point for all the work I do advocating for an intentional way of life.
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    I could not love this quote from @untigering any harder. I know sheโ€™s writing about parenting and unschooling, but Iโ€™ve been putting the finishing touches on my new Sage Money class and itโ€™s the perfect exclamation point for all the work I do advocating for an intentional way of life.