If you're not dangerous, we don't want to work with you. You might have the qualifications. You might have gone to Harvard. Maybe you're perfectly competent. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ BUT. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Competence doesn't demand that anyone notice you, wonder about you, or care about you. Nobody ever won an award for hitting a deadline on time. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We want to work with people who are hated, instead. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It's easy to be loved; all you have to do is kiss the right ass. It's much harder to be hated; hate requires that you intimidate the players. That you're a direct threat to your industry. That your work is so good, you scare the best into despising you. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Ironically, when you're the most dangerous person at the table, you find safety. When you're the safest person at the table? You find a boss. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #entrepreneursofinstagram #girlboss #dowhatyoulove #creativepreneur #creativebiz #livecreative #bossbabe #businessgoals #womeninbusiness #businessminded #businesswoman #onlinebusiness #onlinebiz #businesslife #blog #blogpost #amwriting #freelance
I budget in travel the way most people budget in groceries. Which, if you think about it for a second, I swear isn’t as pompous as it sounds. I remember being younger and freaking out because I wanted ALL THE THINGS, but who could live in Chile and also Costa Rica and also Philly and also Europe? I remember freaking out because I thought I’d have to leave my friends. It was black and white for me: I either lived here, or I lived there. I either was a good friend or I wasn't. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I worried I would lose everyone. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What took me years to realize, however, is that you can have everything you want, as long as you're willing to sacrifice everything you don't. I think in more high-brow circles they call this magic, PRIORITIZING. Some people prioritize having kids, or having a fancy car, or buying sexy purses. And some others prioritize different things, like movement. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ That's me. Movement. The main priority in my life has been self-growth through the deliberate and purposeful search for fulfilling and interesting experiences. Other people choose to grow in other ways. For me, though? This is what I choose to spend my money on. And it's amazing what things you can afford, when you stop trying to afford everything else. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #traveladdict #travelholic #instatravel #travelgram #traveler #adventure #wanderlust #wander #travellife #exploreeverything #discoverearth #keepexploring #explorer #globetrotter #instapassport #nomad #nomadlife #livingmybestlife #inspiration #motivation #mindset #success #self #selfimprovement #selfhelp #confidence #joy #happiness #choices #fuckyes
I’m going (back) to Scotland this July because I, greedy wannabe kilt-wearer that I am, have decided to enroll myself in an intensive summer course @ a jewelry-making studio, for three whole weeks, where I’m going to learn how to solder silver and set gemstones and probably engrave secret messages in EVERYTHING (which is now basically my M.O. in life, get ready) and you know what’s great about this? Nobody cares if I’m bad! Nobody! It’s a school. It’s for bad people. Otherwise, schools wouldn’t exist. SCHOOLS ARE THE ONLY HOPE THAT BAD PEOPLE HAVE. And by bad, I don’t mean naughty, unless we’re drinking whiskey after school, in which case hide your children. And probably the rest of your whiskey. But, to be clear: we can all rest-assured that my rings are going to come out looking like tiny little drunk octopuses, oozing all over the place, not smooth or glorious at all, and then I am going to force you all to stare at awkward pictures of it all on Instagram. So even if I am kinda nervous and even if I am like, “what have I gotten myself into?!” and even if I worry that maybe the teacher won’t like me and maybe I’ll come across like one of those overeager little American twats, and maybe everyone will secretly talk about the overbearing broad behind her back, I remind myself to stop caring how I feel about it—and go anyway. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This is my favorite mantra, even though I want to slit my throat when I hear the word, mantra: who cares what you think about it? GO ANYWAY. Which is sort of controversial, since we're a culture based on f-e-e-e-e-e-l-i-n-g-s. However, I wrote an entire post, today, about how you need to ignore yourself at least once a day—and override your own feelings. LINK IN BIO, BITCHES. Looooove, Ash.
It is a good thing to feel like an imposter. It means you have done something. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #entrepreneursofinstagram #girlboss #dowhatyoulove #creativepreneur #creativebiz #livecreative #bossbabe #businessgoals #womeninbusiness #businessminded #businesswoman #onlinebusiness #onlinebiz #businesslife #blog #amwriting #livingmybestlife #inspiration #motivation #mindset #success #self #selfimprovement #selfhelp #confidence #joy #happiness #choices #fuckyes
I used to be the kind of person who would think about how much *they needed me.* I would do EVERYTHING based on the Very Important Facts that: (a) I couldn't let them down; (b) They didn't have anyone else; (c) They weren't as good at X; (d) They'll think I didn't care; (e) I'll seem selfish; (f) I'll seem like I've let it all go to my head; (g) They'll talk about me; (h) They'll think I'm bad; (i) Maybe THAT WILL MAKE ME BAD. 〰️ I felt like I owed everybody as big a piece of me as they wanted to take, since *I* am the one that left, and *I* am the one that chose this unconventional life, and *I* am the one who's never around to be what I thought made someone a good friend. 〰️ In short, I was spending my life overgiving to repent. 〰️ This is an unhealthy AF way to live your life—and for the record, all of it (well, most of it) was in my head. They didn't need me to repent: I needed me to repent. So much of your own bullshit happens because you invent it. 〰️ I try to look at decisions through a new lens now. The first question I ask can no longer be, do they need me? and will this make me a good friend? The first question I ask is, Is this good for ME right now? Only if I am full, will I contribute. If I'm running on E, however, then the person who needs me right now? 〰️ Is me. 〰️ Don't forget to be a mother to yourself—because you need someone looking out for you, too. 〰️ #livingmybestlife #inspiration #motivation #mindset #success #self #selfimprovement #selfhelp #confidence #joy #happiness #choices #fuckyes #amwriting #writersofinstagram #writerslife #authorsofinstagram #author #authorlife #publishing #aspiringauthors #bookpublishing #book #bookdeal #bookish #booklife #lovebooks #bookworm #penguinrandomhouse #unfuckwithable
THIS. 👏🏻 FRIDAY. 👏🏻 BITCHES. 👏🏻 9am EST! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Come get your brain dirty with me in my new Creative Writing for the Internet hands-on writing workshop—as I teach you my favorite top eight (8) creative writing techniques that, apparently, Penguin Random House dug enough to give my fat ass a book deal. (Oh my god did you think I WASN'T going to name drop there?!) There will be writing. There will be workshopping. There will be farting (I mean, *somebody* will probably be farting?) And there definitely will be the world's most horrendously boring About Page that I've created jusssssst for us, for the sole purpose of getting to pick it apart and workshop it together and make it wayyyyyy better, using each of the eight techniques. I'm all about the practical, this is how you make a sentence not sound like an asshole, so there will be zero theory and ALL, hey, you can instantly apply this to your own stuff anytime you need to write anything on the Internet that you don't actually hate. And yes, there will be a recording. There is always a recording. If you can't make it Friday at 9am, watch it anytime you want. I'll send it out afterward and ALL WILL BE RIGHT WITH THE WORLD FOREVER AND EVER. Can't wait to see you there! Link in bio [echos eye-oh, eye-oh, eye-ohhhhhhhhhhh].
This is my Michael Jackson blazer. I bought it in Santiago, Chile, last year, and let me tell you what: this fucker has absolutely ZERO practical purpose. It's not very versatile. You can't wear it often. It's weird to wear in a park. And the thing screams I don't go to church, hide your children. (Then again, that's probably the perfect tattoo.) But you know why I bought it? Because it's 10,000% me. And I 10,000% wanted it. And 👏🏻 that 👏🏻 is 👏🏻 reason 👏🏻 enough. #DISOBEDIENTWOMAN #BURNYOURCARDIGAN