Woke up with this on my heart. 👇🏼 Sometimes we carry things that aren’t ours because we’re used to it. Sometimes we carry things that aren’t ours because we can. Sometimes we carry things that aren’t ours because we are helping someone else in the moment. Sometimes we carry things that aren’t ours because really, they are ours, we just haven’t accepted or understood it yet. Sometimes we carry things that aren’t ours because we’re too scared to put them down. What else would you add to this list of why we carry things that aren’t ours? 🧳 
Question: in your own words, what does indifference look like to you? Pondering this quote today by Elie Wiesel: “The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference.” ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Would love to hear your thoughts and create a thoughtful conversation around this. ✨ PS: can you see the rainbow? 
Dropping this loving reminder here ❤️ It feels like a necessary message after the events of this week (and the weeks we have yet to face). Please make sure to care for yourself, too. (As I silently remind myself of this). 
I know we all heal and process on our own timeline. But please consider that disconnecting to process events is a privilege. That doesn’t mean I’m not for it, I know we all need the space and time to process on our own schedule. I guess what I’m saying is that not everyone has that opportunity and it’s essential to acknowledge it. This past summer I committed to better understanding my privilege and calling my white peers out. So, here I am. Holding myself accountable. Learning but still trying to show up. Would love to hear your thoughts. ❤️ EDIT: check my stories for more resources on this topic. 
Yesterday we witnessed white supremacists attack our nation and our current president tell these domestic terrorists that “you’re special, we love you”. To the “ influencers” of this platform: I want to share and what I woke up with on my heart (aside from a million other things) today. In the words of @thesashawhitney: It’s time to uncomfortable. Aside from the extreme acts of violence we saw yesterday, there’s something else happening. Can you feel it? I see influencers who I respect and follow and give MONEY to through likes and swipes and follows and affiliate purchases stay virtually silent. I see influencers going on with “business as usual” and not reaching out to brands to change a contract or adjust a date of a post or literally anything else. I see people sticking their head into the sand or spewing toxic positivity or “love and light” all over the place. And honestly, I’m done. Love and light or your new skincare routine or your Target haul isn’t helpful right now. If you are a LEADER on this platform, now is the time to step up and lead, even if you don’t have it figured out. We need your vulnerability. YOU GETTING UNCOMFORTABLE WILL HELP. YOU BEING VULNERABLE WILL HELP. YOU SAYING YOU DON’T HAVE THE ANSWERS RN BUT WANT TO TRY WILL HELP. YOU OWNING UP TO INACTION WILL HELP. You know what doesn’t help? Not saying anything at all Not wanting to ruffle feathers of your followers Not wanting to lose followers or engagement Not being willing to say “I’m human and I see what’s happening, let me get back to you on this.” I am so damn disappointed. Your community deserves better. 👏🏻 A massive S/O to @thesashawhitney for her IG Live on this topic. If you consider yourself an “influencer,” her video is a must-watch. It’s in my story or on her profile. 
There’s an often-forgotten milestone on a child’s first birthday. While a little one is turning 365 days old, a new mother is reminiscing on a year inside of her mostly-foreign body and looking at days upon days of living a life that no one could have helped her prepare to live. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Instead of a letter to my son (okay, let’s be real, I wrote him one too), I’m writing one to myself. To remind me of how far I’ve come, the healing that’s taken place, the struggles I’ve faced (and continue to face), and to soak up a moment of strength. Over the last year, I’ve transformed in ways that I never could have anticipated. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’ve learned what it means to love so deeply that it truly hurts. It’s a deep ache within my soul when I stare into the eyes of my son. Eyes within a face that lives on a body that grew inside of me. I’ve accepted that my life will never look the same and stop expecting it to return to “normal.” Instead, I’ve worked to find comfort in my new state of being and find strength in the moments I wasn’t sure if I could muster up enough. I’ve discovered that my body truly is capable of miracles, even when my birth didn’t go as anticipated, and my pregnancy became scary towards the end. I’ve grown in ways that I could have never imagined. People say that becoming a parent changes you, but I never fully understood that statement until I experienced it myself. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Becoming a mother has opened up many new connections for me, but it’s also been one of the most isolating times of my life. No one really talks about that - the quiet, nagging sense that you’re the only one going through what you’re going through - what sometimes feels like an endless sense of isolation. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Continued in comments 
Understanding this concept was one of the most pivotal moments on my self-care journey. Maybe yours, too? How I love myself directly affects how I love the others in my life. On the days I struggle with pausing to take a moment for me, I simply tell myself, “if not for me, then for him.” 👉🏼 Then I take some time to tend to my needs because *I know* I’ll be a more grounded, joyful, and present mother when I do. Sure it’s not always easy, but there’s no award in life for being the person who asks for the least amount of support. Remember that. The guilt will always be there on some level, but that’s *okay*. Choose you, anyway. What are your thoughts on this? 
HOLIDAY HACK ☃️ 😏 Learning to create healthy boundaries during the holidays can potentially save you a lot of time and stress. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Boundaries help you to communicate more clearly, set expectations with others, and create more peace and harmony within your life. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Of course, setting boundaries isn’t always natural. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It can be downright tricky, especially if tension is already high during the holidays. Layer in a global pandemic, and it’s downright anxiety-producing. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Get clear on your priorities and realign with what’s most important to you. That alignment will then give you a boost of confidence when saying No or setting your boundaries. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Also, you can rely on these helpful one-liners to help you set and stick to your boundaries: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 👉🏻 No, thanks. We have to do what we feel is best/safest/the least stressful for our family this year. 👉🏼 We won’t be there. We’re not comfortable attending gatherings this season, but we will miss you! 👉🏽 Let me get back to you on that. I need to spend some time thinking about our best plan of action. 👉🏾 This is how we’ve decided to spend our holidays. Next year may be different! 👉🏿 Travel just isn’t in the cards for us right now. Let’s think of something fun we can do to together virtually! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ How are YOU feeling this holiday season? Could clearer boundaries help? 
It's no secret the holidays can be extremely overwhelming. Layer in a global pandemic, and we're all *this much* closer to losing it. #stillgrateful ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Tap the #linkinbio to learn more about using proactive self-care this holiday season! 
There’s no award for being the best at muscling through life.🥇 🏆