NEW BLOG POST!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You come home from work alone, only to find yourself within an hour of your arrival barraging your refrigerator and consuming an entire day’s worth of calories despite having eaten breakfast and lunch earlier in the day. You don’t even know how it happened, but when you reflect upon how much you just ate you start to berate yourself for a lack of willpower.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Or, your husband has been out of town for the past few days and you have been at home tending to your three young children. You decide because you are so tired and overwhelmed that baking cupcakes with the kids is a good idea. At 4:00pm you consume 6 of the cupcakes, icing included. You are disgusted with yourself and tell yourself you’ll have a light dinner to offset the carbs and calories you just consumed.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Or maybe you are about to negotiate a raise and promotion with your company the next day and to numb your anxiety the night before, you turn on Netflix to distract yourself and find that at the end of the show you have eaten the entire bag of yogurt covered pretzels. Again you ask yourself, how in the heck did that happen?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ In each of these scenarios you feel like sh*t the next day, bloated, thirsty and perhaps a little more irritable than the day before. You say to yourself, why do I always do this? Why don’t I have better control over what I am eating and how much? Its time to get back on that diet so I can lose whatever I just gained and hopefully that diet will keep me in check next time around. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Or perhaps you are experiencing even more severe situations such as emotional or verbal abuse. You notice that you have consistently put on weight every year since the abuse started. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Post 1/2 continued below!
I know I write a lot about how our beliefs can manifest patterns and behaviors that aren’t the healthiest for us. Turning to sweets and treats when processing emotions was certainly a behavior I wanted to change through much of my adult life. It was only within the past few years that I truly started digging into beliefs I was holding in my subconscious mind that caused me to behave in ways I wasn’t happy with. I consistently found myself reaching for food when I felt any strong emotion - whether it was stress, overwhelm, anxiety, boredom...you name it. What I found through uncovering my own subconscious beliefs is that I associate food with connection. The memories I had come forward when doing subconscious reprogramming were mostly positive ones filled with people I loved. We were connecting while eating something enjoyable. I’m telling you - our minds are so brilliant even at the youngest of ages. My subconscious was coded in a way that whenever I felt a need to connect later in life, I would turn to food to fulfill that need. I also would turn to food whenever I struggled with processing through a heavy emotion. This led to me overconsuming sugar, which I would try and balance out with dieting.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If this is you, I totally get it. And I am here to debunk the myth that the reason we turn to food is necessarily based on “bad” or “negative” memories or experiences - mine were for the most part positive. You might be the same - perhaps you grew up in a family or culture that used or uses food to celebrate, connect and show love. That is obviously going to be ingrained into your subconscious, so on days that you are not feeling the feelings that those things bring, you will naturally turn to food to provide those feelings. There is nothing wrong with this - in fact, you should not blame yourself at all given how our minds interpret and codify things at an early age.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Post 1/2 Continued below...
Do you find yourself triggered around food throughout your day, every day? Do you find yourself feeling guilty for eating certain foods and shaming yourself for “not being stronger”? Do you wish you had more confidence, felt more comfortable in your skin, more empowered in your body and mind? I get it…sometimes we don’t realize something as simple as how we behave around food can dictate many other things going on in our lives. When we start to have a healthy view of ourselves and our bodies, and are able to release the shame and guilt associated with emotional eating, we are able to increase our ability to trust ourselves, and increase our confidence both internally and inevitably externally as well. But how do we get there from something we have sometimes battled our whole lives? It is important to address three main things that many programs do not address when trying to put an end to emotional eating. Learning how to connect to our bodies and it’s unique cues, reprogramming beliefs that are running in the background sabotaging us along the way, and learning how to holistically and healthily manage our emotions. These are three core concepts I teach my clients in my six week emotional eating intensive. Each concept bleeds into the next and all three are so intrinsically related that to have true success all three must be addressed. What does it look like after you put an end to this battle? When you increase your ability to trust yourself and increase your confidence, you might: perform better at work (which leads to better positions and raises); meet your ideal partner (value: priceless); make more social connections and friendships. The time and energy that you used to spend agonizing over what to eat, when to eat it, how much of it, etc., will now be spent on more enjoyable activities. No more exhaustion as you fail time and time again on different diets. Post 1/2 Continued in comments...
If you need some quick but transformational guidance on how to implement intuitive eating in your life, check out this short podcast episode I did with @sonniabatta on her Podcast #30somethingpodcast! Link in bio!!
Offer to work with me 1:1 to finally put an end to your emotional eating. This offer is for: Any woman that has BATTLED her relationship with body and food has yo yo dieted for most of her life and is READY TO MAKE PEACE with food and her body. My unique six week methodology includes these VERY important concepts: Getting in touch with your emotions. We take an in-depth dive into understanding what you are feeling, why you are feeling those emotions and what to do about it. This is the core concept that will help you to end your emotional and disordered eating pattern. Learning your body’s specific needs. You will learn how to receive intuitive guidance from your body, the different types of hunger (yes, there’s more than 1!) and why they all need to be satiated, and how you use food to numb or distract from the emotional pain you are experiencing in your day to day life, which has ultimately lead you to yo-yo dieting. Reprogramming beliefs that are keeping you caught in the endless cycle. During this intensive, I use a process that allows us to understand on a subconscious level the beliefs that are driving this behavior for you so that we can re-code those beliefs. Typical beliefs that I uncover are “I am not enough,” “I am unworthy of having the body I want,” “I am undeserving,” “I will only be loved if I look a certain way,” etc. We examine what YOUR underlying belief may be and start to shift that so that you have success that is sustainable. This extremely individualized intensive includes one hour coaching calls in Weeks 1, 3, 4, 5, and 6 and a two hour subconscious recoding session in Week 2. In this particular session you will be given a personalized recording to listen to for the following three weeks to hard wire in new beliefs. A bonus to this intensive is the specific process you will be taught for eliminating limiting beliefs that you can use in the future outside of our work together! Continued below...Post 1/2
Do you ever get asked the question, “Do you want the good news or the bad news first?” If you’re like me, you’ll always respond with “the bad first please.” So here is the bad news first… If you have been struggling with your weight and dieting for years, I am here to tell you it has nothing to do with finding the right diet. It has everything to do with whether you are connected to your body and hold certain beliefs about yourself. Deep rooted subconscious beliefs such as “I am not good enough,” “I am not worthy of the body I want,” “I don’t deserve to look a certain way,” “It’s not safe for me to be attractive,” and others make us sabotage any dieting success we have had along the way. So now the good news? These beliefs can be changed and shifted. It just takes getting into the subconscious mind, which dictates 95% of our behavior, and recoding the old beliefs to beliefs that will support you in your efforts. This is something I work with my clients in my 6 week intensive on emotional eating, in addition to addressing the emotional and physical components of mastering intuitive eating and ending emotional eating for good. I have found that any program aimed at ending emotional or disordered eating has to have the three components of belief shifting, emotional awareness and management and understanding our bodies’ very unique and individualized physical cues. Any program aimed at ending yo yo dieting or emotional eating that doesn’t address all three isn’t a comprehensive program. Gone are the days of trying to fit our dietary lifestyle into the latest fad diet...we have all grown frustrated with the newest diet’s unsustainability and failure rates. We know on a deep level there is more than just the food we put in our mouths, but for some of us, we don’t know the how or why or what else there is to address. Post 1/2...continued below!