Hating your body is, like, so 2018 (and 2017, and 2016 and 2015 and...). . I am LOVING the greater shift toward body positivity that is happening right now (oh heeeey @effyourbeautystandards @i_weigh @lizzobeeating @ashleygraham and so many more ). Platforms like Instagram make it more possible than ever to tune into the higher vibe messaging that we want and need and to unfollow the messaging that tears us down. . But despite the positive shift, gross messaging is still abundant. I periodically go through and unfollow accounts to make sure that I am only seeing content that I find uplifting, and I delete any of those you-wish-you-could-be-me “influencers.” Do your mental health a favor and clean up your follow list! #goodvibesonly
I went to a concert last night and the opening act sang a song about how their life would begin when love walked in. And... I wanted to barf. Because haven't we all fallen prey to the line of thinking that life will begin when we find love or get married, lose weight, pay off our debt, graduate... whatever. . Babes, a HUGE thing you can do for yourself and your self-love practice is to cut this thinking out. This is toxic and is keeping you stuck in place. Your life is happening NOW and you can make the most of it or waste it. Your choice. . EVEN IF things are bad right now. I, personally, have a lot of bad shit happening that in the past would have made me SERIOUSLY depressed and stuck. But I have worked really hard to focus on PRESENT-MOMENT goodness, to be IN my body, to be GRATEFUL, and to choose to enjoy what is GOOD. Because something has to be good, even if a lot of things are not. . I am NOT saying to ignore what isn't good or to just think positive or that you can change everything if you just find the right affirmation. Address the bad/hard/negative stuff - you have to - but REMEMBER to pay attention to the good. It is what will get you through. xo
If there is only one thing that I could get you to understand, I would want it to be this: that SELF LOVE is your SUPERPOWER. It's the biggest skill in your life that you can develop that will help you in all things. By self love I mean deep love of your self, I mean imbuing every cell of your body with loving compassion, I mean being gentle with yourself when things go wrong, I mean finding joy in your body, I mean accepting yourself completely as you are right now and giving yourself the tools to work toward where you want to be. It's the basis for EVERYTHING.
In less than 3 weeks, we will be shooting in Paris again! This same goddess, @tressabeheim, is coming back and we will be using the same palatial apartment for our indoor set. There is ONE spot left on September 25th. DM if it is your spot! #paris
The female form, in all of its stages, is such a miracle and a thing of beauty. I absolutely adore shooting with past clients who come back to me for maternity sessions. And now you can even come back again with bébé for a motherhood session! #lovemyjob
Trying to stay as cheerful as this pic with the rainy and hot weather this week. Basically refusing to go outside! 🔥How are you going to keep your cool this weekend? I plan to do lots of relaxing and reading in the a/c and treat myself to ice cream! 😘 @bellabombshel
I told you yesterday to be vulnerable, so today I am going to practice what I preach. This is me! I took these #boudoirselfies a few years ago and they have never seen the light of day because... I dunno. I felt self-conscious about them. But if I let go of my personal bullshit, I think they are super hot and super playful. 🔥🔥🔥Feel free to bring some @fiveguys to your shoot, too! 🤣
It requires vulnerability to be powerful. Standing in your own power is not about bravado but about really knowing who you are and embracing all of your truths.
Truly deep self love is about loving all the parts of us that we've been taught to shame, to blame, to push away, to try and control, to feel guilty about, to block down way deep in our repressed subconscious and unconscious. When you can let those parts come up and welcome them with love, you can finally stop fighting with yourself.
A girl should be two things: who and what she wants. #cocochanel 🔥 This is truly a rule to live by. Are you embodying the life you want? Are you being true to yourself? What is one change you can make immediately that will bring you more into alignment with who and what you want to be?
You don't need anyone's permission to be the fucking amazing goddess that you are. Where are you holding yourself back? Let go of the self-criticism, the self-consciousness, the extra layers that keep you hidden. You don't have to be afraid of what anyone thinks of you, period.
Have you connected with your inner wild woman lately? It is really easy to push her aside and focus on work and life and all of the obligations that pull at you from every direction. It is so easy to think you don’t have time to indulge her. But this is where we are mistaken, my fellow wild women. We have to give our inner wild women time to play! It keeps us balanced, it releases stress from our bodies, it nourishes our nervous systems and it cultivates our joy. Even if you are just taking a few minutes to get up from your desk and dance around the room, make sure you listen to her and let her play a little bit every day.
Hey gorgeous! My favorite thing about a photo shoot is capturing people's authentic selves. Let's skip the fake smiles and go in for the real stuff - give me your quirky smile, your belly laugh, your silliness, your sexiness, whatever is really YOU.
Take a few minutes (or hours) today for pleasure – take a nap at your desk, get a treat from the ice cream truck, indulge in some self-pleasuring, sneak off to a cozy spot with a book. Whatever it looks like for you, taking a break for pleasure makes the rest of your day that much brighter and easier to get through. 😍
Are you at war with yourself? Your negative self-talk is received by your nervous system as an attack and becomes yet another stress that our bodies have to endure. Of course, it is easier said than done to just turn off all negative self thoughts! But try this – next time you catch a mean thought about yourself pop into your head, thank it for its opinion and give it love and then ask for another opinion from a more supportive part of yourself. You might be surprised by how many cheerleaders you have in there waiting to speak up, too!!
I kind of want to crawl into a cozy bed and stay there. There is just so much going on and so many problems and causes to care so very deeply about, it is easy to experience compassion and empathy overload. ⭐️ I'm not writing this because I have some magical answer to tell you what to do when this happens. I'm writing this because I am struggling very hard with it right now, honestly. The only things I have found that help me are a) to do some grounding exercises in the present moment, whether that is some deep breathing and meditation or just petting my cats and b) to look through my “animal therapy” folder I have on FB of nothing but adorable animal pics and videos. These things bring me back to my joy and to the present moment and to a reminder to be grateful for all of the love and abundance in my life. ⭐️ What about you? Do you have any practices or tips for when the world gets you down?