I told you yesterday to be vulnerable, so today I am going to practice what I preach. This is me! I took these #boudoirselfies a few years ago and they have never seen the light of day because... I dunno. I felt self-conscious about them. But if I let go of my personal bullshit, I think they are super hot and super playful. 🔥🔥🔥Feel free to bring some @fiveguys to your shoot, too! 🤣
It requires vulnerability to be powerful. Standing in your own power is not about bravado but about really knowing who you are and embracing all of your truths.
Truly deep self love is about loving all the parts of us that we've been taught to shame, to blame, to push away, to try and control, to feel guilty about, to block down way deep in our repressed subconscious and unconscious. When you can let those parts come up and welcome them with love, you can finally stop fighting with yourself.
A girl should be two things: who and what she wants. #cocochanel 🔥 This is truly a rule to live by. Are you embodying the life you want? Are you being true to yourself? What is one change you can make immediately that will bring you more into alignment with who and what you want to be?
You don't need anyone's permission to be the fucking amazing goddess that you are. Where are you holding yourself back? Let go of the self-criticism, the self-consciousness, the extra layers that keep you hidden. You don't have to be afraid of what anyone thinks of you, period.
Have you connected with your inner wild woman lately? It is really easy to push her aside and focus on work and life and all of the obligations that pull at you from every direction. It is so easy to think you don’t have time to indulge her. But this is where we are mistaken, my fellow wild women. We have to give our inner wild women time to play! It keeps us balanced, it releases stress from our bodies, it nourishes our nervous systems and it cultivates our joy. Even if you are just taking a few minutes to get up from your desk and dance around the room, make sure you listen to her and let her play a little bit every day.
Hey gorgeous! My favorite thing about a photo shoot is capturing people's authentic selves. Let's skip the fake smiles and go in for the real stuff - give me your quirky smile, your belly laugh, your silliness, your sexiness, whatever is really YOU.
Take a few minutes (or hours) today for pleasure – take a nap at your desk, get a treat from the ice cream truck, indulge in some self-pleasuring, sneak off to a cozy spot with a book. Whatever it looks like for you, taking a break for pleasure makes the rest of your day that much brighter and easier to get through. 😍
Are you at war with yourself? Your negative self-talk is received by your nervous system as an attack and becomes yet another stress that our bodies have to endure. Of course, it is easier said than done to just turn off all negative self thoughts! But try this – next time you catch a mean thought about yourself pop into your head, thank it for its opinion and give it love and then ask for another opinion from a more supportive part of yourself. You might be surprised by how many cheerleaders you have in there waiting to speak up, too!!
I kind of want to crawl into a cozy bed and stay there. There is just so much going on and so many problems and causes to care so very deeply about, it is easy to experience compassion and empathy overload. ⭐️ I'm not writing this because I have some magical answer to tell you what to do when this happens. I'm writing this because I am struggling very hard with it right now, honestly. The only things I have found that help me are a) to do some grounding exercises in the present moment, whether that is some deep breathing and meditation or just petting my cats and b) to look through my “animal therapy” folder I have on FB of nothing but adorable animal pics and videos. These things bring me back to my joy and to the present moment and to a reminder to be grateful for all of the love and abundance in my life. ⭐️ What about you? Do you have any practices or tips for when the world gets you down?
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.” #anaisnin 🌟 How is your life shrinking inward due to something you are afraid to do or to face? Have you ever tackled something scary and then felt like you could practically fly? If you are feeling weighted down and unable to fly, take a look at what you are avoiding and have the courage to face it.
It was such an honor to take portraits with this beautiful mother and baby today. Motherhood portraits are so special and are something that instantly become priceless to the people in them and the ones who love them.
I’m so proud of the new website and thrilled to have a new home for all of my offerings under just one name! If you haven’t checked it out yet be sure to take a peek and don’t forget to sign up for the newsletter at the bottom of any page! #linkinbio
“You were wild once, don’t let them tame you.” -Isadora Duncan . How are you staying wild this weekend?
Can we talk about judgement? For whatever reason, whether it is natural instincts or cultural influence, we humans are judgy bitches. We judge EVERYTHING. And I find that exhausting and demoralizing. Don't you? 🌟 A couple of years ago I started making a conscious effort to stop being judgy, especially of other women. Whenever I notice that little judgy voice in my head pop up about anything, I say NO very sternly to myself and replace it with something nice. 🌟 I don't like what someone is wearing? Great! Nobody cares what I think about someone else’s outfit! I replace that judgy thought with some mental love toward that person and applaud her for wearing what she loves. 🌟 It's really easy to do, and I have found that it makes a huge difference in my outlook. Noticing the behavior and, most importantly, replacing it with positive thoughts has actually translated into me also being kinder to MYSELF. 🌟 So if you are a person who struggles to be kind to yourself, try this exercise and see if it doesn't just ninja its way into how judgy you are about your own self. 🌟 (And this pic has nothing to do with judgy bitches and everything to do with being a bad ass woman. Look at her!)
After all of the discussion of post-breakup sessions last week after our NY Post feature, I wanted to turn the tables and give a shout out to my brides. 💍 Every single woman who comes to me in order to create a boudoir album as their wedding gift tells me at some point during the process that she realizes this experience is more for herself than it is for her future spouse. Some of them don't realize until the end and some know it from the beginning, but they always realize it at some point. 💍 Doing a photo shoot is a huge gift for yourself. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable is really hard. Looking at photos of yourself with love can be really hard. At a moment in your life when you are about to join your life with someone else's, there is tremendous power in taking a moment to do something for yourself that reinforces your sense of self, that reminds you of your beauty, that shows you both your strength and your vulnerability, that pushes your edges a little bit, and that reminds you that you are a bad-ass woman. 💍 My brides present an album to their spouses that doesn't say, Here is your delicate blushing bride. It says, You are so fucking lucky to be marrying this powerful, independent goddess and you'd best remember that.